Marriage Isn't Smart For Anyone In 2012
3I never wanted the white veil or played the bride in dress up clothing with my friends. I thought hot pink was so much better than white and I liked to write stories much better than playing the ones fairy tales immolate. I love Disney and no it's wrong but that still doesn't mean I followed the notions.
I don't want to get married because in my opinion:
1. Marriage is a big deal and should be respected. If I don't full and whole heatedly want to get married than I am taking advantage of that right.
2. I am in a 7 year relationship and told him day 1. He is glad today we didn't or "haven't yet." But I don't see my not wanting to marry anyone ever not changing. He said he was glad because of #3
3. We have debt and together we would have way to much debt and he didn't want me to take it on. Its better that one of us have good credit. Also we don't fight about money.
4. I don't want the wedding. In my opinion brides look like this happiness is almost a celebrity for a day parade and not a civil union. While this isn't pertaining to everyone, I don't understand or find it appealing.
5. Blunt and True: People who spend money on a wedding instead of paying off student loans or buying a home aren't educated enough in preparing a married life in the future to get married. Overall: If you trade a house or your future happiness by avoiding problems that all lead to why marriages end for a party where you get to be doted on and told your pretty for a day your a moron. Dress up like Santa one year or pretend its your birthday every place you go to until the urge is beginning to subside.
5. The laws of marriage don't recognize equal rights. I don't sign anything that gives more of my freedom as a woman away. If you don't get this google: Women's Pay While Married and Taxes until you find out.
6. Marriage is bad for me because my gut the same thing that makes me begin to run if being chased says its not good right now or ever.
7. I am married "allegedly," (this does not formally claim or presume marriage due to its opinion based objective) by the laws of my state with common law. I can legally get a divorce if we broke up. It's not in the record books and I didn't get to pretend I was a virgin or register at bed bath and beyond but still legally I can claim or act out those rights if I wanted or he wanted. (this is not a admittance or announcement) I keep putting reminders in parenthesis because even my words on here can be proof of common law marriage unless supported by something written like I put in parenthesis.
Overall, marriage is great for people who know why they want it, want it and are prepared enough to do the easy things in the beginning to protect there future. People makes mistakes but again, trading shelter and financial security which all hurt marriages for a party is not an easy learning mistake. It means you don't know what the hell your doing.
If your thinking about getting married:
SEE HOW MUCH DEBT HE/SHE IS IN! See how this would affect you two as a couple.
READ ABOUT YOUR NEW TAX LAWS IN your state when it pertains to having a status of married.
Do the idiot test.
1. Pick one
a. wedding
b. home or down payment on home.
c. wedding plus honeymoon
d. down payment on smaller home than you want for the time being and a portion or all student loans paid off.
Depending on what applies to you personally only b. and d.