From the Top

Lately I’ve been getting a larger-than-usual number of enquiries from guys who’ve never seen an escort before.  Some of them find me through this blog, some via my Twitter, others via my articles in Reason or my various interviews, and still others via my ordinary escort advertising.  Some of them want to see me in particular, while others are just looking for general first-timer advice, but nearly all of them are nervous (or even full-out scared) about the possibility of falling into a trap set by the pigs.  That’s why they contact me; even the ones who discover me via my escort ads usually notice that I’ve got a strong decade-old social media presence under the same name, and as I myself have said many times that’s a very good indicator that a lady is the real deal rather than some pervert cop pretending to be an escort so he can have the fun of destroying a man’s life for the terrible “crime” of loneliness.  Most of these guys, however, are not regular readers, and this blog has become so enormous it’s a bit daunting for the newcomer.  Hell, it’s sometimes even intimidating to me, and I wrote the damned thing!  So I think it wouldn’t hurt to pull together a “best of” collection of resources for new clients that I can then simply link when one of these new gents contacts me.

The single most useful essay on the topic is undoubtedly “What To Know Before You Pay for Sex“, from the July 2018 issue of Reason; I wrote it specifically for guys who are neither regular clients nor regular readers, so it contains all of the information I consider vital in one brief and easily-digestible article.  It draws in (small) part on “Advice for Clients“, which I think still holds up despite being a decade old.  And then, of course, there are a number of Q&A columns about the basic mechanics of finding sex workers:

• How do I find an escort in my city?
• What is the truth about Asian massage parlors?
• How do I find a reputable agency and avoid cops?
• What should I do if an escort’s ad seems illegitimate?
• How do I find a sex worker I can emotionally connect with?
• How does one who lives in a small town or rural area find an escort?
• Should I trust an escort who doesn’t have much of an online footprint?

And some about more specific issues that could be of especial interest to newbies:

• What is meant by “upscale” in escort ads?
• How can I get providers to give me a referral?
• How can I deal with guilt about seeing sex workers?
• How can I help a friend lose his virginity with an escort?
• I’m a new client; why won’t any escorts agree to see me?
• How can a young guy get an escort to take him seriously?
• Is it OK to ask a sex worker friend if she’d see me professionally?
• If I climax quickly in a long date, is it OK to ask for another round?
• Is it OK to stay the full time after climax, just to enjoy her company?

I think that’ll do for starters, but if you want more there are links to scores of essays on my questions page.  And if you’d like to see me specifically, all the information you need is on my escort site.