Eating Disorders and Compassion

By Gray Eyed Athena @grayeyedowl

The speculation around my office about who’s obsessed with food, who’s not eating, or who needs to lose weight is unreal.  I love my job and three of the people I work with, but the rest of my coworkers are terrible excuses for human beings.  I generally like everyone I meet and want them to like me back, but this work environment is quickly curing me of that.

The general nosiness and lack of common etiquette is one thing, but the ongoing remarks and speculations about peoples’ eating habits are really inappropriate.  There a couple women who are overweight and to me, show all the typical signs and symptoms of a food addiction.  I hear people making really awful comments behind backs about those persons’ obssession with food and what they ate and when and how much.  And on the other hand, the few women here who are actually trim and fit have to deal with a constant barrage of anorexic insinuations and comments, both to their faces and behind their backs.  Two of those women, I believe, actually are eating disordered/restrictive but the comments behind their backs are incredibly condemning and harsh.

It’s awful.  I am constantly shocked at how quickly these women turn on people and especially on the people who might need compassion the most.  I can’t control the blatant rudeness here, but I have done my best to actively show compassion to these women, and mostly as a rebuttal to the comments I hear behind their backs.  An eating disorder, at either end of the spectrum, is a mental health issue and deserves our compassion and love.