My energy to write is highly non-existent right now, which doesn’t happen often in my world. Sometimes the life gets sucked out of you and that’s okay. If you want unicorns and rainbows I’m sure you can find that on your Facebook news feed.
I sit here with Lucky’s empty bed beside me, where he laid every time I sat down to write. I won’t be moving it for while. Not sure when.
I do want you to know I read each and every one of your comments. Some made me cry, some made me laugh, all made me grateful for this community.
This week has been an AFOG for sure. Here are some things I’ve learned in the past three, long days since I had to put Lucky to sleep:
- It is impossible to run while crying really hard. You have to choose.
- People who say, “C’mon, it was just a dog” have never had a dog
- Not being able to “fix” what is hurting your child is one of the worst feelings in the world
- Just because they are “in a better place” and/or “not hurting anymore” doesn’t mean you have to like it
- There are some things in life that you truly cannot change no matter how hard you try
- Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest, most difficult and most grueling thing
- A glass of wine, the Hallmark Channel and a warm fire does help. For awhile.
- Grief, loss and challenges create the perfect environment for bonding with your kids and getting to know them better
- A house feels full because of who is in it. When someone is missing and not coming home, the emptiness is almost unbearable
- You can’t rush grief. You have to sit in it. Feel it. Embrace it.
- A small, kind gesture from a friend or family member goes a long way (you know who you are)
- You have to forgive yourself for being human and not doing things perfectly
That’s all I’ve got. Just some reflections on crap most of you already knew.
What’s a lesson you learned when you lost a pet or loved one?
SUAR