I will never forget the day I answered that blocked number and I heard my daughters dad on the other end of the line. The conversation started out intense with us both being on edge, but that quickly changed once he realized that I was not holding a grudge against him for leaving. Zahara was almost 2 years old and I was very happy that he decided to finally do the right thing. Our conversation ended with us agreeing that we would meet up asap so that he could meet Zahara. Later on that night he called again and we slowly began to catch up. Those calls turned into us speaking to each other all hours of the night, every night the same way we did before Zahara was conceived. This was weird, I was unsure of my feelings but I knew that I did not hate this man, I slowly began to trust him. We were attached again, just as quickly as we were before I found out that I was pregnant. (I'm going to end the story here out of respect for my husband, but it is pretty clear that the obvious later happened.)
Trusting him again is 1 of my only regrets in life. He only stayed around for a few months and I later found out that he was married the entire time, and his wife was also pregnant. I don't know how he could live with himself not only lying to his daughter and I, but also lying to his pregnant wife who I never knew existed. How did I not see the obvious signs? How did she not see the signs? Did she ever hear him talking to me on the phone? Where was she the night we were with him in his city?
Some things will remain unanswered but 1 thing is for sure, I would have been better off emotionally if he would have never came back around with all of his lies and deceit. I'm telling this story so that maybe someone reading will think twice before trusting again. Keep in mind that this is the same man that abandoned you and your child. Make him earn your trust and then allow him to see your child when you feel comfortable. I am not saying this to be negative because chances are your story won't end like mine, but put your feelings to the side and protect your child! Don't be so quick to rekindle a relationship that does not deserve a 2nd chance, all conversations and interactions with this person should be related to the child.