From some kooky Tea Party/right wing populist/conspiracy nutcase site, nonetheless a good article:
Thoughtfulness – is something we see very little of these days but encompasses elements of thoughtfulness, nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful place others ahead of themselves and very rarely expect anything in return.
Beauty – In beauty there is warm softness, in some cases a slight curviness, or it can be fragile delicateness that speaks softly. It’s something that is striking, but it doesn’t strike. Beauty can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping, but it’s not something that has to be forced or sold. Beauty in women exists naturally.
Vulnerability – a way for women to show they are not strong in everything, show a weakness that perhaps men can step up and assert their manliness, strength and willingness to take care of situations that women don’t have the physical strength to handle the situation. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an admission that one cannot handle everything life throws at them, and a great sign of strength.
Empathy – This beautiful quality exists when a person sees someone else suffering and relates to their pain, then tries to ease their state.
Intuition- The “Gut” feeling many of us often get when something either really good, or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we can solve problems with our intuitive nature before they come to fruition. Many times it can feel almost psychic in nature, but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.
Patience – is an even temperateness and capability of being the calm person during every storm. Patience comes with life experience and seeing our peers react in a calm confident manner.
Acceptance – accepting who one is, and every facet of our being the physical, the emotional, and the mental, without denying or pretending to be something else.
Sensuality – is the willingness to use patience, exploration and discovery to fine what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. With sensuality, the fun is in the exploration and flirtatious foreplay.
Radiance – It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy. Radiance is something that is acquired from taking the time to reflect on who, and what a person’s gifts here on earth, and appreciating those gifts for what they are.
A pretty good summary of the feminine ideal anyway in all of its glory. I think this is mostly correct. My remarks:
Patience – is an even temperateness and capability of being the calm person during every storm. Patience comes with life experience and seeing our peers react in a calm confident manner.
Yeah well forget that. Although I will say that a lot of women do get a lot more peaceful in this way as they get older. The female is the calm person in every storm. LOL no way Jose. Most women I know get quite emotional, depressed, anxious, angry, terrified, furious, mean, violent, contemptuous, annoyed, irritated and most certainly not the slightest bit patient whenever things start heading south. It is generally a male who exhibits calm under pressure. Men from some Asian cultures, such as older Japanese men, can be experts at this.
Intuition- The “Gut” feeling many of us often get when something either really good, or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we can solve problems with our intuitive nature before they come to fruition. Many times it can feel almost psychic in nature, but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.
I don’t believe in precognition. Nevertheless, intuition is a form of genius in which women excel. They are not so good at logic or reason as that is the domain of the male, but they make up for it with their intuition. Intuition plus logic and reason is a great quality in man. For instance the best detectives have excellent intuition and logic/reason. That is a mind that is hard to beat.
Empathy – This beautiful quality exists when a person sees someone else suffering and relates to their pain, then tries to ease their state.
Women excel at this, of course. Men are much less empathetic. This is no doubt biological as women raise children, and men raid other tribes, kill the men and steal the women, all the while hunting dangerous mammoths. In those situations, the empathetic man is soon a dead man.
Although I do believe men can improve their empathy if they only work on it. I often get complaints from ex-girlfriends that “You don’t care. You only want one thing. You’re using me. You never call me,” and sadly, “You lack empathy.” I do not mind most of those, although the don’t care is not helpful in my relationships. The no empathy thing stings though.
I assure you that I try very hard to feel empathy for others, but I am just not very good at it. For some reason, every time I think about someone’s horrible or lousy situation, I think, “Oh well, it’s not that bad. If that happened to me, I would be able to handle it no problem.” This bothers me as it seems to minimize their problems, and the truth is that I flip out and take to bed all day defeated with much lesser stresses than the others in my life have to deal with. But no matter how hard I try to put myself in their place, there is still the matter of, “Yes but it’s not me. It’s another person.” If it’s me, it’s the end of the world; if it’s another person, it’s no big deal, and I could handle it easily although I couldn’t.
My therapist said that women are always accusing men of not caring and lacking empathy. These complaints are a dime a dozen. He said that men do have empathy, but not as much as women, and they show it in different ways than women, often experiencing it more cognitively than emotionally.
Vulnerability – a way for women to show they are not strong in everything, show a weakness that perhaps men can step up and assert their manliness, strength and willingness to take care of situations that women don’t have the physical strength to handle the situation. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an admission that one cannot handle everything life throws at them, and a great sign of strength.
Sure women are vulnerable. But should men be vulnerable? I say bad idea. Sure, sometimes you have to ask for help if you really need it, but a lot of people that a man who is not handy or is asking for help is seen as a great big pussy. The more vulnerable a man is, the more problems he is going to have in life as people will see this quality as babiness, pussification, and downright unmasculine.
Pity the obviously vulnerable man. Other men will sneer, mock or suppress a cruel laugh. Women themselves have a lot contempt for him. God help the seriously depressed man. Women will give him way more crap than men will. Past a certain age, all men know what it means to be sad. Women see a depressed man, and they want to kick his ass.
Sensuality – is the willingness to use patience, exploration and discovery to fine what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. With sensuality, the fun is in the exploration and flirtatious foreplay.
Sure, women are great at this. I think men could use this quality too. Women love sensuous men as lovers. They eat em like candy. No downside here.
Beauty – In beauty there is warm softness, in some cases a slight curviness, or it can be fragile delicateness that speaks softly. It’s something that is striking, but it doesn’t strike. Beauty can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping, but it’s not something that has to be forced or sold. Beauty in women exists naturally.
Sure this is a part of women, but some women harden as they age, maybe go through a bad divorce and become angry middle aged women who are cynical about men. They appear hard, and whatever beauty they had is history.
Beauty is a mixed blessing for men. Sure it turns on a lot of people sexually especially if you are good-looking. Many of the most successful womanizers I knew had a certain element of feminine beauty like this about them. They slinked when they walked, had smooth movements with their limbs, sometimes looked like vulnerable little boys, spoke softly and had delicate features. Women literally could not resist these guys.
When I say mixed blessing, I mean that the more beautiful a man is, the more people are going to insist that he is homosexual or at least has some gay component. And beauty in men will attract gay men like mosquitoes in Alaska.
I think this quality if good in small doses but can quickly go too far and now you’re a fucking faggot and that’s an inane sort of unnecessary and aggravating stressful confusion for a straight man. Even very handsome men are often seen as gay simply because they are very good looking. John F. Kennedy himself remarked on this. This problem is particularly acute when a man is pretty, soft-faced, or baby-faced. Pretty boy is a double edged sword.
That fragile delicateness that speaks softly part is so not going to work unless you can turn it into a James Dean, beautiful loser, doomed bad boy, tragic outlaw sort of thing, in which case it’s Women RAID.
The vulnerable little boy thing is good and if you do it right, it’s a lady slayer. Embarrassing secret: I often play little boy-Mommy with girlfriends when I get up in the morning. “Mooooom can I have some bweckfast?” with an expectant pout. Then Mommy cooks her little six year old son breakfast and makes him all happy and full. It sounds asinine but it goes over great with most girlfriends, and they love it and think it is hilarious.
But mostly fragile delicateness is just going to look pussy. You need to watch it with that one.
Thoughtfulness – is something we see very little of these days but encompasses elements of thoughtfulness, nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful place others ahead of themselves and very rarely expect anything in return.
Women are superb at this as nature has selected for it as an essential component of mothering. The maternal quality is hardwired in most females, even the childless ones in their 40’s and 50’s who say they hate kids. It’s not true, but some of them have turned their dogs or cats into surrogate children.
Men just are not good at this at all. I don’t see anything wrong with a man being thoughtful in this way, but it doesn’t come naturally, and the guys that are “good” at it are often Omega wussy manginas friendzoned by the female planet who suffer masochistically while their woman friends use them as sounding boards and crying shoulders. This is a very lame wussy thing to get into, and most men like this are pathetic. If this is the way you are stumbling through life right now, get out. Not now. Yesterday.
Acceptance – accepting who one is, and every facet of our being the physical, the emotional, and the mental, without denying or pretending to be something else.
I am not sure if any women ever accept themselves. Men are a lot better tat this than women are because frankly a lot of them simply do not care. Not caring has its downside, but if you don’t give a damn, you usually won’t find yourself lacking.
Women are usually dissatisfied with one or more aspects of themselves, typically their bodies. Even women in their 40’s and 50’s are still pretty crazy and insecure over their bodies. Of course all young women are in a permanent state of body insecurity. That is one of the defining features of a young woman. Woman of all ages are masters of denial as this is one of their favorite defenses, often utilized to the point of sheer blindness, in which they find some odd peace being lost in total darkness.
I do not think women accept themselves emotionally either as they are often undergoing some sort of anxiety/depression minor emotional troubles, that is when they are not out and out suicidal or at wit’s end. By the time a women reach 70, almost all of them will have experienced at least one major depression and will have been seriously suicidal.
By the time a woman reaches 55, a stunning number of them will have made a suicide attempt. Fortunately most women’s suicide attempts are just cries for help and are are done in that typical histrionic, theatrical mode that females excel at. That is, they are not serious. They are trying to get attention. People scoff at these fake attempts as pussy, but men are much more logical, rational and successful at suicide so maybe this is one time it is better to wuss out, make a scene and act like a girl. At least you’ll be alive when you wake up. Men use guns, women use pills. This is one case where male efficiency and practicality is a bad idea.
Interestingly, gay men also excel at these histrionic fake suicide attempts. Don’t believe the lies Gay Identity Politics tells about the gay suicide rate/ teen gay suicide rate. Neither do do it any more than straight. They just make a lot more attempts.
Radiance – It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy. Radiance is something that is acquired from taking the time to reflect on who, and what a person’s gifts here on earth, and appreciating those gifts for what they are.
This is a nice one, and women can be pretty good at this as they are in touch with this sort of positive feeling. Many men probably shut this glorious feeling down in their 20’s at the same time they were shutting down all their bad feelings, and as we get older and chronically serious and “adult,” we are not good at this anymore. But teenage boys and young men can often have this innocent, Jesus-like quality.
I don’t see anything wrong with men doing this, but you can get into trouble for smiling too much. As a young man I was always smiling, and other young men who saw themselves as “adult” seemed to get quite annoyed by it. The idea is that a man who is smiling all the time is somehow ridiculous, not manly or serious or is still a teenager. Grow up, idiot!
Personally, I love nothing better than to see the uncommon man, often older, with a smile of pure blissed out LSD like peace shimmering across his placid face. Peace is yours for the taking.
I doubt if women care if you smile all the the time, and an extremely calm man who appears to have near total peace of mind at the time is quite attractive with women who are so often in a state of emotional turmoil and roiling seas.
I do not think a man can go wrong with this one, but it is a bit hard to achieve because life is often pretty painful and shitty, and it’s hard enough to drag yourself out in the morning, resist the urge to kill yourself, and determinedly march into a new quotidian speed-bump. That takes up enough energy for many men, and there is not much left over to imitate the Buddha. If you manage to achieve this though, good for you, as the world that unfolds when you have achieved substantial peace of mind is as gorgeous as this life gets. Savor it, hang onto it, thank your lucky stars. You are one of the blessed ones. Go forth my son, and frown no more.