It is often common to see people state how they want to stand out from what people are doing, they want to be unique and then it is funny that more often than not that uniqueness you strive so hard to get is what someone else is already living as a unique style. Quite complicated.
I would not want to wear red because everyone is wearing red, I would rather wear blue. This is non-conformity, trying to stand out and be different from the crowd. Here you have the crowd dictating to you what you should do and what you should not do.
What then is true self? Being your true self means doing what is your best fit.
Most times we tend to mix our lives of non-conformity/uniqueness to being our true self but these two are entirely different.
Non-conformity is making decisions based on dictations from the crowd and True self is making decisions based on self and best fit.
In life we ought to learn to be our true self rather than try not to conform to what others say.
I have been a victim too.
I needed to go for an occasion sometime and I went online in search of a shoe. I saw a very beautiful shoe, it was so beautiful and my size was available(very happy me). I did not hesitate to click the purchase button, then I got a call almost immediately to confirm the order. I was so exited (I am always excited when I know something new that "I love" is coming).
On my way home at the close of work that same day, I stopped at the mall to quickly get myself some toiletries and on stepping in I saw a lady beautifully dressed at first glance, I had not taken my time to look at her properly and when I had a proper look from head to toe....Guess what I saw???
My Shoe!!! I actually felt like someone was wearing my own shoe even though mine had not arrived and then I just automatically said to myself this shoe is everywhere(I wonder how one meant all).
Unfortunately I could not cancel my order, so I had to accept the shoe when it came but then the love I had for it had faded as I already told myself it is everywhere and I can not wear it again.
Reality dawned on me when I realized I needed a blue shoe for my outfit (oh sorry I didn't tell you the shoe was blue) and it was already too late as I did not plan an alternative for the occasion even when I had told myself I was not going to wear it.
So I was left with the option of not going for the occasion or just wearing that shoe, not minding who will be wearing it with me (what a mindset)
The occasion was too important to me that a shoe could not stop me from going, so I came up with a plan C I said I could also be unique and wear a color that goes with the dress, everybody in the occasion will be wearing a blue shoe so let me wear a different color (where on earth did this come from?).
Okay, now you are thinking I am confused but then I actually was very confused because I fought with not doing what I wanted because of the crowd and that was just the major confusion of a life time.
To wrap it up, I went to the blue event with a red shoe that I normally would not have thought of wearing so I basically did not like my outfit but then I felt good because I was not conforming to what others did(lol) and at that event I was consciously looking at the blue shoes to see if my look alike was there but to my own foolishness it was not there.
So, I had a major loss and that loss was to Self.
And I had to learn this "Never try to feel Unique from the crowd at the detriment of your True Self".
And from that day I told myself I would rather do what soothes me not minding what happens than do what soothes the crowd, either to be unique or as a form of non-conformity.
Now the question goes like this?
Are you still that me that would rather not do something because you are trying to be different from the crowd,at the expense of what you love?
OR
Are you that me that will make the decision to do what is best for you and what you love?
Your uniqueness starts from being original, nobody has your style, nobody can be you. Even if a million and one people are doing a particular thing always tell yourself that they are not "YOU" . If not for anything they do not have your face.
Your look already makes you different and your true self might just be the one the world has been waiting for.
How do you achieve this by connecting to your core value and passion.
Quit Non-conformity and stick to True self, that's where your value lies.
Wishing you a very happy Easter. Celebrate in your true Self.http://feeds.feedburner.com/LifesTreasury