What is Jealousy
Jealousy is a sentiment by which you cannot tolerate another person's presence and his success or influence seems to be causing mental agony to you. When you see a person you envy, your first wish is that the person should vanish from the scene. Though you want to become like him and achieve what all he possesses but at the same time you do not like him as a person. The sentiments of jealousy are controllable and this skill can be learned. Here are a few tips to avoid jealousy.
Explore Why You Feel Jealous
It is important to know the root cause of jealousy. Is it your self esteem that is causing jealousy? Is it the sentiments of competition that is causing jealousy? Once you ascertain the cause then it becomes easy for you to overcome it. Try to rationalize your sense of competition and try to limit your feeling of self esteem. Build self confidence so that you are able to face the realities of life with courage and boldness.
Identify the Threat to Your Relationship
You may be jealous of a person from whom you feel threatened. The perceived threat is poised towards your relationship with another person. If you have a love relationship with a guy and another girl enters in your social life, you may feel that your love relationship is in danger. You think that your boyfriend will be attracted towards the newcomer and hence will leave you. In such situation try to establish why and how do you feel threatened? What is so extra ordinary in that girl that is lacking in you? Once you establish the threat try to counter it with your personal skills without being jealous of her. [ Signs that People / Friends Hate My Girlfriend]
Change Your Attitude
A sudden success of one of your colleagues may make you jealous of him. You may envy as to why you did not get this reward which he has got. Try to think positively and shun negative thinking. Take stock of your good and bad qualities and try to overcome your weaknesses. Find out on what qualities your colleague was able to get the reward and you failed. Once you identify your professional and personal weaknesses you will not be jealous, rather will put in more hard work to achieve the goals.
Consult Your Sincere Friends
If you are in a state of jealousy it will be obvious to many of your friends. They may ask as to why you are so depressed. A sincere friend may be perturbed to see you in mental agony and may offer his help. If you find such a nice and considerate friend, try to consult him and ask his opinion on the issue. Some of them may come out with useful suggestions that may change your life for good. When you communicate with other people and friends it is quite reassuring. Communication is a key to finding solutions to social problems.
Learn to Control Your Emotions
Emotions are a natural phenomenon and cannot be finished altogether. These should not be suppressed also because it will create psychological problems. The best way is to channelize the emotions towards positive activities. With practice you can control your emotions, including those of jealousy. However the process of controlling emotions is long and tedious and needs lot of determination. [ How can Anger Affect Our Social Life]