“Forgiving is not forgetting. It's letting go of the hurt.”
- Kathy
Sorry is something which is considered as one of the most fundamental words in the English dictionary. This might be just a five –alphabet combination but let’s look at it in a different perspective. It is one of the most impactful and influential words. This words has the power to change the status of a relationship, make an enemy a friend, stop battles or solve misunderstandings, on a whole it has the capability to transform your social life.
People apologize genuinely when they realize that they are at fault and regret making that mistake and want to turn it the other way round. When somebody says – ‘I am sorry’, it doesn’t show that the blunder is all committed by him or he is of a lower dignity there but instead that shows that the individual values the relation, has realised his mistake and wants to rectify it. He deserves a chance there. Just as it is said:
“Apologizing does not always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.”
- Unknown
The power of Sorry!
The true potential of this divine word sorry doesn’t end here. Just ponder on the quoted example here.
There were two friends, Best friends I should say. The first one betrayed the other. They fought. For months there was no connection between the two. Clearly, the first one was at fault but his ego obstructed his way in apologizing and accepting his mistake. One random day, the second friend gets a call. It said, ”He is dying. He wishes to see you.” On hearing this tears rushed down the smelted eyes over the cheeks of the friend. Without a second thought, he packed luggage and rushed to the airport. Next, he was at the hospital. When he glaced at the friend lying on the bed surrounded with all sorts of fancy medical equipments, he broke down. He came and sat beside him and told him how much he meant to him and he regretted the fight. The friend on the bed gave a remorse face and said,' I am sorry for what I did my friend, I didn't intend it so bad. I hope you can forgive me.' To this the other one replied,' I had forgiven you long back. I was just waiting for you to realize and return.' With a small smile on his face the friend marched his path to heaven.
The essence of this story can't be explain but only understood. You see how this word is capable of giving a person the peace of mind that he had longed for throughout his life but couldn't achieve. The term is just is another way to clear up all the problems and sort out your way through the grievances of life. It lets you have a happier and soother journey.
We are humans, we are meant to make mistake but a true being is the one who knows how to accept and rectify them. Bigger than them are one who accept others flaws and forgive them. This is life. You have to stay with varied kind of people and if you keep small episodes stuck in your heart forever and don't let go, you'll be the sufferers. So its better to apologize and forgive whenever needed. Afterall, its always said, the worst sin is to hurt another fellow being and the best way to amend is by honestly meaning the apology.
Now, let's look at a few vitals of this majestic word-
1. Cleans your soul
2. Removes a burden from your heart
3. Strengthens relationships
4. Helps heal the pain of a person
5. Begins new starts.
Live your life, carry no regrets, make everyone happy and forgive all. That would not only make your mind free of boundaries but also has a huge impact on the mentality of the person opposite to you.
“Saying 'I'm sorry' is saying 'I love you' with a wounded heart in one hand and your smothered pride in the other.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich
(editing: Shivam Ralli)