My Dear Human let us connect you to Being,
If you are reading this with a heart that feels heavy, a mind that will not quiet, or a body that feels numb—please know this first: you are not broken. You are not weak. You are not failing. You are a human being who has learned, like so many of us, to survive in a world that taught you to think your way through life, while quietly abandoning the language of your own feeling body.
Addiction whether to substances, people, screens, or patterns is not a moral failure. It is a spiritual and emotional cry for help from a part of you that has been left behind. We are born as two rivers flowing as one: the thinking mind and the feeling body. But somewhere along the way, life taught you that feeling was dangerous. That anger was too much. That sadness was a burden. That need was shameful. So you did what any intelligent being would do you numbed. You learned to live in your head, to analyze, to perform, to perfect, to control all while the feeling part of you grew quieter, lonelier, and more desperate to be heard.
That numb space you carry that hollow in your chest, that static in your nerves is not emptiness. It is Being, forgotten. It is the part of you that knows how to heal, how to love, how to rest, how to be gently waiting beneath the noise. The addiction is not the problem. It is the misplaced prayer. It is the soul’s attempt to feel something even if it’s pain because feeling something is better than feeling nothing at all. I know this because I lived it. I used achievement, attention, and avoidance like drugs all to outrun the tender, trembling boy inside me who just wanted to be held, to be seen, to be felt.
Healing does not begin with fighting the addiction.
It begins with ending the war within.
And to end this war, you must learn the most sacred rebellion: to fight with feeling.
Not with weapons, but with presence. Not against your mind, but for your body.
Your thinking mind has been the general of this war planning, judging, fearing, controlling. It believes it is protecting you, but it has become the very barrier between you and life itself. Every time you analyze your pain instead of feeling it, every time you numb the ache instead of breathing into it, you are surrendering your aliveness to a tyrant that does not know love, only strategy.
Fighting with feeling means:
When the urge to escape arises, you drop into the tremor in your hands.
When shame whispers you’re not enough, you feel the collapse in your chest without trying to fix it.
When loneliness grips your throat, you breathe into the tightness as if comforting a child.
This is how you reclaim your territory not by defeating your mind, but by returning authority to your body. This is how you discover that what you’ve been missing—the connection, the peace, the aliveness was never in a substance, a person, or an achievement. It is in the courage to feel what is already here.
You are missing out on being a human being not because you are flawed, but because you were taught to wear your mind like armor and armor cannot feel, cannot receive, cannot love.
The moment you choose feeling over analyzing, tenderness over judgment, presence over escape you are not just healing.
You are coming home to the human experience you were born to live.
We are here if you need a gentle guide back to yourself.
You don’t have to keep running. You don’t have to stay numb.
True healing is not a battle—it’s a return.
And you, my dear, are so worthy of coming home.
With infinite tenderness,
Lee & Sherry
The Connectionists
Relationship Reinvented LLC
If you feel the call to heal the connection within, we hold a soft and sacred space for your becoming. You are not alone..
That sadness was a burden. That need was shameful. So you did what any intelligent being would do you numbed. You learned to live in your head, to analyze, to perform, to perfect, to control all while the feeling part of you grew quieter, lonelier, and more desperate to be heard.
That numb space you carry that hollow in your chest, that static in your nerves is not emptiness. It is Being, forgotten. It is the part of you that knows how to heal, how to love, how to rest, how to be gently waiting beneath the noise. The addiction is not the problem. It is the misplaced prayer. It is the soul’s attempt to feel something even if it’s pain because feeling something is better than feeling nothing at all. we know this because we lived it. we used achievement, attention, and avoidance like drugs all to outrun the tender, trembling boy/girl inside us who just wanted to be held, to be seen, to be felt.
Healing does not begin with fighting the addiction.
It begins with ending the war within.
It starts with one breath. One moment of turning toward the numbness, the ache, the urge not with judgment, but with curiosity. Place your hand where it hurts. Breathe into the tightness. Whisper gently, “I am here with you. I will not leave you alone in this.” In that moment, you are not fixing a problem. You are reuniting with a lost part of your own soul. You are remembering the connection that was always there the one between your awareness and your feeling body. The one that knows, without being taught, how to heal.
You were never meant to do this alone.
If these words stir something in you a longing, a sadness, a flicker of hope that is your feeling intelligence waking up. That is your Being, calling you home.
We are here if you need a gentle guide back to yourself.
You don’t have to keep running. You don’t have to stay numb.
True healing is not a battle it’s a return.
And you, my dear, are so worthy of coming home.