I started thinking I was a really cool dude. And women and girls got really comfortable around me for some reason and I have no idea why. But at junior college we should be studying in a group and some cute chick would get up out of her seat and walk over to me and sit on my lap. The other guys would shake their heads and say, “How do you do it? WTF. I don’t get it.” I don’t either but women used to say that I was very “approachable.” So I would say you should make yourself approachable.
I started having more successes, grew my hair really long and got more and more confidence to where I felt like I was the coolest guy on Earth. And I suppose I acted that way too. Which of course led to even more women. Each new success swells your head even more and pretty soon you have an aura around you. And each new woman makes that aura grow even bigger. As the aura grows bigger and bigger, it attracts even more women because somehow they can see this aura thing and see how big it is for some reason it attracts them. People would meet me and just assume I was a player. Older men would come up to me and say, “Haha! You look like you have three girlfriends right now, right?” I would usually say yes even if it wasn’t true.
And then I would meet women and they would not trust me and say, “You seem like you are a ladies man. I don’t trust those guys,” or “You seem like the kind of guy who likes to chalk em up, right? I don’t know about guys like that. They just use women. ” It’s really hard to answer questions like that as they are rather accusatory. Usually you just mumble some stupid answer that sort of says yes but maybe says and still leaves you coming off good.
Part of the problem is girls love players, but they also hate them and don’t trust them. So if you say, “Haha! I’m a player!” most chicks are just going to frown and take off. So you come across as “former player” or “mystery man.”
And you’re always single right now. This is very important. Even if you have a girlfriend, you never tell the new girls that.
I made that mistake. I went out with this totally hot babe with blond hair and blue eyes who was just gorgeous. I had a girlfriend at the time and I wasn’t really cheating on her as we had an open relationship anyway, but I still felt guilty and I confessed, “I have a girlfriend.” Well she said, “Screw that, you’re an asshole. I’m a one man woman and, if you’re with me, you’re not with anyone else,” which is what almost all females 20 to 60 say all the time, as honestly women want monogamy. Then she was gone.
Then this couple I knew fixed me up with the wife’s younger sister, and I did the same thing, and she flipped out and told her older sister. “He asked me out and then told me he already had a girlfriend! He’s an asshole!”
The wife thought I was a scum from then on, but the husband just laughed and he liked me even more than before.
He took me aside and said, “Hey, whenever you have a girlfriend and you want new chicks, you never tell the new chicks that you have a girlfriend. Always lie and say you don’t have one.”
Which is really what you need to do most of the time if you want to have sex beyond your girlfriend. If you are honest to the other women, you will just find failure. So if you want to play this game, lying is mandatory. If you don’t want to lie, don’t play.
And if you do play this game, you may wish to consider openly stated open relationships.