We spend our lives searching for a relationship, convinced it is the vessel that will finally carry us to the shore of belonging. We follow the script: the labels, the timelines, the expectations. We try to fit ourselves into the role of “partner,” and we ask others to do the same. But so often, what we build feels more like a transaction than a communion. We find ourselves exhausted, performing love instead of experiencing it, wondering why the very connection we crave remains just out of reach.
What if the problem isn’t with love itself, but with the container we’re trying to force it into? A relationship is a structure built by the mind. It comes with a job description and a set of rules. It asks, “What are we?” and demands an answer. But true connection exists in a different dimension altogether. It is not a structure, but a current. It is the silent, sacred space that opens up when two people dare to put down their roles and meet, simply and vulnerably, as human beings. Connection doesn’t ask, “What are we?” It whispers, “How does it feel to be here, together, right now?”
This kind of connection requires a courageous shift: from managing expectations to honoring truth. It means trading the security of a label for the aliveness of presence. It means listening to the quiet wisdom of your body that feeling of ease, of resonance, of rightness above the frantic noise of your mind that worries about “where this is going.” When you choose connection, you are choosing to be real, not right. You are choosing to be vulnerable, not validated. You are inviting the other person to show up, not as the perfect partner, but as their beautifully imperfect self. We found connection and we told our story if you are wondering how we speak this! you can find that here
This is how we break the cycles of disappointment. This is how we stop attracting fantasies and start attracting presence. When you anchor yourself in the truth of your own being, you become a mirror that reflects only what is real. Those who are only seeking a role will see their own reflection and turn away. But those who are ready for connection will see you, and in that seeing, a door will open. A door to a love that is not a cage, but a sky, a ocean was made to connect all oceans do..
This path from performance to presence is a journey of unlearning and remembering. It is the central heart of the work we do at Root Camp. If you are tired of the roles and ready to explore what it means to live a life rooted in authentic connection with yourself and with others we invite you to join us. This is not about finding a better relationship. It is about discovering a more beautiful way to be human, together.
— Sherry & Lee