Thylezian writes:
To be honest I’m new to this whole “game” thing. I had to look it up. (Obviously not quite the same thing as game theory in the mathematical sense, though models could be useful if there is any scientific basis to it.) I had assumed what you were talking about was a thing related to the dynamics of herd animals as applied to humans.
I am mainly going by your descriptions of the same. It just seems there is likely some sort of intermediate between Betas and Omegas on your description. (Kind of people who are not outright “losers”* Having looked it up, people seem to have come up with not only Gammas but Deltas and something called Sigmas, which is something off the scale (and possibly vaguely psychopathic sounding).
Looking over this list, I am almost certain that I am a Sigma. There is no way on Earth I could possibly be an Alpha. Even if I were an Alpha, I am not sure I would identify as one, as to me, any guy who goes around shouting, “I am an Alpha!” while he may well be an Alpha, I think he is being a pretty lousy Alpha.
The true pure Alpha would not even care if he were an Alpha or not.
If asked, he would respond, “I don’t know? Do you think I’m an Alpha? Well, if you say I am, then maybe I am, who knows? Honestly, I don’t care if I’m an Alpha or not, as those terms mean little to me.”
In addition, I am not extroverted enough, status conscious enough or a natural leader. Not only am I not status conscious, but I do not even care one whit about status rankings. I am not interested in competing with other men because in my opinion hardly any of them are really competition. I look around the crowded bar and say, “Competition? What competition?” That isn’t really a factual statement as there are definitely guys in life and even in that room who could outcompete me in my areas of life and even in Game.
But I simply choose to be irrational see the illusion that none of them are any competition for me and I can basically beat all of them anyway, not that it matters. If I do not get the hot chick, I just shrug and say to myself that there will be 5-10 others along soon enough anyway. I don’t even really care about sex or whether I have it or not. I am certainly not willing to go to outrageous extremes to get it; I would rather sit back and let it fall into my lap, and that is almost what it seems to do quite a bit.
The site says that Sigmas often infuriate Alphas because Sigmas refuse to accept the Alphas’ superiority or dominance. In fact, we often are so nervy that we laugh at them. That is exactly right. I do not acknowledge anyone’s dominance in general, and would definitely laugh at an Alpha if I were so included. Sigmas can much more introverted than Alphas also, and that’s me.
Alphas are very conscious of social rules as they are all wrapped up on popularity/networking/business personal transactions in which social rules and mores are very strictly adhered to and violation of the rules has serious consequences. But Sigmas reject all of that unnecessary socializing and they are willing to break many if not all social rules if they feel like it. They are nonconformists, and Alphas often envy them for not being enslaved to social rules.
I have always been a bit of a loner, even when I was having parties with kegs of beer, live bands and 200 people in the house, almost all of them known by me.
I am not only not a leader, I am not even a joiner. And people definitely think I am strange or weird. I have exuded a bad boy persona for a very long time; in fact, a lot of people think I might be a hidden sociopath or even a dangerous criminal. I sold drugs on the street for many years and never got caught.
Even though people think I am weird, I have always been able to get chicks since I was 18 or so, quite often cute, pretty, hot or beautiful ones. When I was younger, I sometimes had 3 gf’s at once and then whatever I could scrape up on the side.
But I am basically an outsider – outside of society.
Car Guy told me a while back that he didn’t think I was an Alpha at all; instead I was a Sigma. It was interesting at the time, but I wasn’t into Game too much because, after all, Sigmas don’t follow rulebooks like that. We prefer to make it up as we go along.
So Sigma it is, and Sigma it will be then. Sigmas FTW!
More on Sigma Males here and here (Roissy). Roissy sees them as somewhere in between high Betas and Low Alphas, or a sort of Beta-Alpha transitional type. That makes sense to me. Although in the piece Roissy refers to them as “renegade Alphas,” and others refer to them as “introverted Alphas,” I do not think that is true. Instead, Sigmas are their own category probably between a Beta and Alpha. Not that a real Sigma would give a flying fuck where he was on that list anyway.
The first link also goes over the odd categories of Deltas, Gammas and the mysterious Lambdas who make no sense to me.