Deciding to focus on giving thanks means a whole new mindset, championed by Positive Psychology and its founder, Dr. Marty Seligman. When you use these techniques to count your blessings – at Thanksgiving or any time during the year – you can act on the gratitude you experience and live a richer life:
- Consciously notice what brings you joy.
- Each night list 3 things that you were grateful for that day.
- Savor these events.
- Recognize why they happened.
- Thank those who generate happiness.
Set aside some time this long weekend to reflect about the people, experiences and circumstances for which you are thankful. And then read about some actions you can take that I suggest in a post:
- Express your gratitude – after you do you’ll experience more contentment, improved self-esteem, and closer connections.
- Say ‘thank you’ for the gift of love from family and friends.
- Give back to your larger community.
- Convey a random act of kindness as you pay it forward.
Families are unique, complex and dynamic – and they can change as a result of your thoughtful input. Especially if you have a Boomerang Kid back home, here is a link to some strategies you can employ before you set the Thanksgiving table:
- Plan ahead.
- Be proactive.
- Keep it neutral.
- Don’t get stuck in the past.
With more family celebrations coming in December, how about making a plan now to reduce the pressure you put on yourself? Check out my Thanksgiving post from a few years back to learn how to:
- Reduce your stress by lowering your expectations.
- Ask for help, early and often.
- Focus on what you have rather than what you are missing.
- Anticipate dysfunctional behavior and do what you can to contain it.
As you express gratitude for the people in your life, consider making this holiday season the one that moves you all toward a more positive 2017.