Published June 1, 2000.
When I was in my early 40s, I hit the wall after being very achievement oriented. I started practicing yoga and reading zen Buddhist meditations.During my quest, someone suggested that I read Be Here Now (1971) by Ram Dass. While it was a bit "far out" for me, I did appreciate his alternative views on reality and his focus on consciousness.
The year I turned 50, I discovered his documentary Fierce Grace (2001), which describes the insights he gained and after suffering a stroke in his mid 60s.
Even though a related book was published before his documentary, it took me a few years before I read: Still Here: Embracing Aging, Changing, and Dying. (2000).
Dass actually finished a draft prior to his stroke. However, he revised the manuscript and added a conclusion based on his improved awareness gained from his stroke. As one of his friends remarked: "You're more human since the stroke than you were before" (p. 70).
The book contains meditations, quotes, anecdotes and interviews. Dass has spent a lifetime focused on spiritual questing. I am grateful to learn from his latest task, which he describes as conscious aging.
Here are a few quotes from the first third of the book to whet your appetite.
- "Healing is not the same as curing, after all; healing does not mean going back to the way things were before, but rather allowing what is now to move us closer to God" (p. 5).
- "Getting old isn't easy for a lot of us. Neither is living, neither is dying. We struggle against the inevitable and we all suffer because of it" (p. 6).
- "In the wisdom mode, we're not processing information, analytically or sequentially. We're standing back and viewing the whole, discerning what matters and what does not, weighing the meaning and depth of things. This quality of wisdom is rare in our culture" (p. 17).
- "Old age offers the opportunity to shift our cares aaway from the physical toward what cannot be taken away: our wisdom and the love we offer to those around us" (p. 24).
- "As we quiet down and move inward with age, we realize how vital it is to use our minds in ways that liberate us from the traps of the past" (p. 34).
- If is the mental tendency to cling that creates anxiety, suffering, and fear, and once we're able to identify what we are attached to--a certain standard of living, say, or a body that does not change--we are able to take the first steps toward freeing ourselves, regardless of the particular difficulty" (p. 41).
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Books on Aging and Spiritual Growth