Now we get to the good stuff. Right? Sex. Sex is an important part of any marriage, and communication is key. Every couple should discuss sex before marriage. Yes, even if they are already having sex. I'm startled by how few people actually talk about what they want in the bedroom. You are already in there, why not get what you want?
My personal experience was....ok. I was far more adventurous than he. He just wanted to get off. Every once in a while he decided I should have that same courtesy. I was very vocal about what I wanted, and I rarely got what I asked for. The important thing is that I put it out there.
So I say that, and you envision some domineering woman that is never pleased and always asking for more. Nope. I did the subtle hinting and sweet talking thing that ladies do. Sometimes I wasn't very subtle, but I was never demanding or rude. Our sex life wasn't what I wanted, but it was getting there.
My advice to all couples is to fully communicate about sex. If that is uncomfortable to you, then you probably shouldn't be having sex with that person. Maybe there is something you want to try that could be considered taboo. If you are embarrassed to talk about it, find a scene in a book that depicts what you want and let your partner read it. Viola! Problem solved.
Bottom line is it's up to you to get the sex you want. Your partner isn't going to magically read your mind. Besides, chances are your partner wants to please you and wants to give you what you want. If he or she doesn't, then I'd be looking for a new partner.
There will be more on sex in the future. Stay tuned!