We all want to feel like we’re in control of our life and are masters of our destiny.Think of a time when things started to feel out of control in your life.
How did you feel? What did you do?Did you do everything in your power to regain back the control, and cling to the little bit of direction you had left?Many people become consumed with what they can’t control and obsessed with making things different.
When we focus on what is out of our control, it prevents us from experiencing the beauty in the moment and having peace of mind. The more we try to control things, the less control we will experience on things. But before you let go of an emotional burden from your shoulders with a strong desire to control, it is very important to ask yourself a question: "Is this a situation I won't change or I can't change?"because those two are completely different terms.Sometimes we feel that things are out of our control but usually they aren't. People say, "I can't quit my job, I can't get into this college" Mostly, it's not what we can't but what we won't.
Look at the silver lining:
When we are not in control, it is human nature to feel disappointed and tend to look on what all are wrong and how terrible the present situation is. This is the time when you actually have to take a long deep breath and look at the silver lining among the darkest of clouds. By doing this, not only you would be able to weigh all the pros and cons more effectively but also would help in clear and proper decision making by not letting the situation control us.
Focus on what you can control:
Amidst all the chaos, all the confusion there would be a ray of hope, there would be something that you can have a control of, an alternative. Channelize all this energy, the one you spent stressing, decision making, ranting, finding out a way when there is none, to this alternative because the energy you spend here will result into something productive.
there are some things that you cannot control in life, some circumstances you don't have the power to mold it in your way and the problem is not the thing that is out of your control. The problem is that you are trying to hold on to it and control it, when you really can't. Letting go is not a sign of weakness or giving up but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.