"We find each other in unlikely spaces. In the shared experience of other, we find belonging and rest, whether in a short ride to an airport or a long-distance phone conversation. These moments of connection seem to come at the right time, sustaining us until the next encounter, preventing us from falling into an abyss of self-pity and isolation." (p. 181 of Between Worlds: Essays on Culture and Belonging)
I got together with a fellow immigrant (she - a real one, me - an invisible one) the other day. Talking together was easy and natural. Oh there were plenty of missed cues, and 'what do you mean by that?" questions, but the ease with which we communicate across those boundaries are what was so refreshing.
We were at home in the shared experience of being outsiders. We are the ones who don't completely fit into our surroundings, but work to live well despite the poor fit. The gift of shared experience lasted for a couple of hours, and then it was time to be on our way. We left the coffee shop, bound more tightly together by our vast global network of people, places, events, and memories. We left with more stories that link us to each other and to the world.
As I walked back to my apartment, a cold rain was falling. Slush and rain puddles crept through my boots, but somehow it didn't matter. I thought about friendship and contentment, and how long it sometimes takes to accept our reality.
It has taken me a long time to live effectively in my passport country. For so long I looked and wished for a better place. Slowly, I've given up a dream idea that there is a better place than right here, right now. I no longer live with unrealistic expectations and frustrations with those around me (at least not most of the time!) Instead, I've realized there is no better place. Right here, right now - wherever that is for any of us - is the best place.
"There is no 'better place' than this, not in this world. And it is by the place we've got and our love for it and our keeping of it, that this world is joined to Heaven..."And in the "no better place than this" I will continue to meet strangers and soulmates, fellow immigrants and those who have lived here forever. I will connect immediately with some and tentatively with others, because that's life.
And in all of this, I will learn more about loving and keeping place, and in doing so, join it to Heaven.