Talking is like breaking through the walls imprisoning you.
I used to be the kind of guy who was scared to say what he wanted. The more I liked someone, the more I hid away what I really wanted in an effort to keep them happy. It’s a stupid habit and it’s one of the things that caused my first marriage to implode. Well, I’m not that person anymore and I recently had proof of that when it came to my healthy lifestyle. You can read about it on my fitness blog but I’ll give you a quick recap here.
Basically, my wife and I were spending too much time in restaurants which caused me to eat too much. One quick conversation later and we came up with a much better lifestyle which is working out great so far. It wasn’t hard, it wasn’t scary, it was just a conversation and it led to a great solution.
Bottom line, if you can’t tell your partner (or best friend or parent or…) what you want, you’re in trouble. Either you need to overcome your fear of communication or the person you’re trying to communicate with doesn’t belong in your life, either way, you have a problem. You should never be afraid to talk with someone in your life, ever!