Effeminate? Yeah ok. I can be seen as effeminate.
Jason, you are not effeminate, ok? Actually few straight men are actually effeminate. Effeminate means “acting like a woman.” Straight men get this very confused with being soft, wimpy, wussy, pussy or whatever. Now a lot of straight men are soft, a whole lot are wimpy, and yeah I guess there are some wussy or pussy straight men out there. But really none of these “soft” straight men are truly effeminate. Perhaps they are “feminine” but only feminine in the sense of maybe being quiet, gentle, and liking to read or write or maybe cook. But that is completely different from being effeminate. Maybe 3% of straight men are effeminate, if that.
Effeminate behavior in a man is the sort of thing you see in a gay man. Probably 70%+ of gay men are effeminate to one degree or another. Some gay men are not so much effeminate as wimpy. But wimpy gay men are often extremely wimpy, like so wimpy and pussed out that it it ridiculous. Wimpiness takes quite an exaggerated form in gay men.
I have been noticing a lot of straight men who might be seen as wimpy, geeky or even soft these days because I have been trying to sharpen my “Is he gay or is he straight?” skills. Some have very soft voices. But in a way, I finally figured out that a lot of them are still quite masculine.
Look at the way they move their bodies. A straight man will often move his body in these rather sharp, rigid, almost blocky movements. It’s almost like a machine or a robot. It sounds lousy, but that is how masculine or straight men are supposed to act in ManWorld, so most just do it. Women do not usually act like this. Instead, women’s actions are flowing, like a river or an ocean. A woman who is stiff and blocky seems very unfeminine and not sexy at all.
Another thing I noticed with even soft, wimpy or nerdy straight men is that many of them have a deep voice. Even very soft-voiced straight men often have a deep timber to their voice. Most straight men’s voices will be rather deep because that is how a masculine man is supposed to act in ManWorld.
Another thing you will notice about a lot of soft or maybe wimpy or nerdy men is that they are often quite controlled emotionally. Often this comes across as having few or no emotions, once again almost like a machine or even a robot. But this is just how masculine men are supposed to be. We are supposed to suppress our emotions and act rather unemotional. Emotions in general are seen as pussy in ManWorld.
So the true essence of base masculine behavior that almost all straight men will engage in is:
- Blocky, rigid or sharp movements, almost machine like.
- Very controlled emotions that almost seems like few or no emotions at all, once again, rather machine like.
- A deep timbered voice, even if it is so soft you can barely hear it.
Really even “straight-acting” gay men do not act like this a whole lot in my opinion. The vast majority of gay men are either effeminate to one degree or another or they are wimpy, typically in an exaggerated way. They are also often a lot more emotional that straight men too.
For a background on ManWorld, see here.