Love Your Empty Nest

By Nancy Bell @nancyfancyfree

I went to coffee with a few of my girlfriends today to catch up.  It had been quite some time since we all got together and shared a little gossip.  :)

One of my friends became an empty nester a few months ago, after her son moved out after finding a job in Minnesota.  She has been having a difficult time dealing with the new home situation and was asking me how I did it.

There is no doubt it is difficult but finding happiness and inner strength are the first steps to loving the new empty nest.

Like I have said before, the first couple months are the most trying but once you discover how to handle the change it is like a breath of fresh air.  I found it really helpful to make sure I remembered that I was never actually alone, my kids were a phone call away, I had my loving husband, and even then I always had myself.  I rediscovered how wonderful and exciting I actually am.

It might sound a little conceded, spending so much “me time” but it is the perfect time to do it; there is no one you need to tend to.  Spending time alone is a great way to rediscover your interests and old hobbies.  It might seem daunting spending time alone and letting your mind wonder, but occupy yourself with a book or something that interests you.

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone.  You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”- Oscar Wilde

I used my new found free time to appreciate the silence, read as many books as I could, Pinterest binge, found a new hobby and career, and dream about the possibilities to do with my free time.  By spending time actually doing things I enjoyed and finding new ways to enjoy life I became an even happier person and a better mother.  My kids have noticed my new ambition and really help me thrive in my new lifestyle.

I know from firsthand experience that becoming an empty nester is hard, but everything gets better in time.  When I found new hobbies and began a new health journey my mindset completely changed.  When the going gets tough, the tough get going!

Just like I told my friend I will tell you, YOU CAN DO IT! I believe in all of you!

Until Next Time,

Nancy