It’s Not About What You DESERVE

By Eemusings @eemusings

The other day, I had to talk myself out of booking flights to Niue for next month. I tell ya, at less than $100 each one way, it was a tough call. After all, travel is my weakness.

Niue is one of the destinations on my bucket list, but ultimately it just isn't the right time. Cheap flights are great, but accommodation is pricey (remote island, whoo! Niue tourism is pretty young still from what I can tell). And I'd like to go in whale watching season, which starts in July.

We already have a Japan trip later this year, T isn't really in a position to take any time off, June will be busy at my job, and hello, recovering from a financial trainwreck. Niue is fairly close, I often see good package deals and I'm sure there will be more in the future.

But man, sometimes it's hard to make the smart choice.

Don't I deserve a break after a nightmare year?

If only life worked that way.

Doesn't T deserve an awesome, secure, full time job? Don't I deserve a decent home to live in after enduring years of terrible rentals?

Hell fucking yes. But this ain't the movies and people don't always get what they deserve. (It's particularly galling when people around us have houses bought for them when/because they only have four grand banked or an unplanned kid on the way. That's never going to happen for us.)

It goes both ways, too.

Did I really deserve to get paid more per hour to run around and stick up flyers at my first office job, compared to when I typed documents and made up invoices back at the office?

Did I really deserve double pay on weekend shifts at my first editorial job? (God bless unions.)

But back to my original point. Much as I'd like to indulge in a tropical getaway right about now, working towards getting into a stable home where we can have a family and pets is way more important. EYES ON THE PRIZE.

When you get right down to it, we all deserve better - a better car, a better house, a better holiday - whatever does it for you. You deserve better. We all do.

That said, we also need to make savvy decisions about what and when we're going to spend. The timing's got to be right - otherwise we end up dissolving money in the near term and turning our backs on the opportunities we can take up for the long term.

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