I don’t really agree that ”Observable behaviors such as the way someone walks, talks or moves really have little to do with sexual orientation.” There are some guys who are so feminine, camp or effeminate that you can observe them and know they’re definitely gay or almost definitely gay. one There was a camp guy in my college when I was about 16 and one of the guys I was with asked is he gay and another guy said ‘well he isn’t fucking straight is he?’ And he wasn’t! And it was obvious. Come on, don’t tell me there’s no relationship between femininity in men and sexuality!
There is, but at some point it makes no sense.
Look at all the people who insisted that the New York Dolls, Prince, etc. were gay when they were not at all.
I have met countless straight men who were constantly accused of being homosexuals due to the way that they looked, talked, walked and moved. Homosexuals pestered them constantly and straight people were wary of or discriminated against them. Many people simply refused to accept that they were not gay. These guys would tell people that they were straight, and most people would not believe them and would insist that they were lying.
Also I had some good friends were constantly accused of being gay. They were not even 1% effeminate. Instead, they were very handsome in a pretty boy way with soft, almost feminine faces. Their behavior and the tone of their voices were soft and non-forceful. They were passive and non-aggressive and didn’t believe in fighting. They tended to get hurt instead of angry at people. They were also very sensitive. One guy could best be described as “wimpy.”
I never considered them to be even 1% gay. Of course they were my best friends for many years, and if they were significantly gay at all, they would have tried to fuck me almost immediately because that’s what guys like that do when they make friends with you. Furthermore, we socialized around women and girls and trying to get chicks and get laid. They had both had a long string of girlfriends and combined they screwed more women and girls than your average guy would in 50 years.
One guy eventually got involved in homosexuality even though he had always been against it. I can’t help but think that being called a faggot a million times had something to do with it and pushed him in that direction. You call a man a thief enough times, and he might just start stealing.
I don’t see the point of pushing straight people into homosexuality. Why create more homosexuality? Don’t we have plenty enough gays as it is? The gay population should be minimized, not maximized.
Sure gay men are on average more likely to be not macho, feminine or effeminate than straight men, but there is a tremendous amount of overlap and the number of not macho, feminine or effeminate straight men is vast, surely in the many millions.
And I have recently seen some video of some very straight acting gay men. A number of them were pretty much indistinguishable from the way a lot of straight men act nowadays and they were not particularly effeminate at all. They were just more or less regular men. And there are some gay guys that are as masculine-acting as any man who has ever lived.
When you see a really effeminate man, all you can really do is put a big question mark by him. That’s all I ever do. Then I do some further investigations to see if I can figure out what is going on with him. In many cases, you can more or less figure it out. I never accuse any man of being gay unless I have some pretty good reason to suggest that. It’s really better to just assume everyone is straight until proven otherwise, because the last thing you want to do is to ever accuse any man of being gay falsely. That’s one of the most horrible things you can say about any man, and to accuse a man of that falsely is a horrendous crime. Personally, I would rather be called a rapist or a murderer than be called a homosexual. To me it’s more honorable.