I have previously written about how I like to live in a judgement free-zone, especially when it comes to someone’s decisions and actions around family life and the struggle than parenting can at times be. I’m all for making decisions that work best for you and your family, even if they are not widely understood and accepted by others.
That was until today though, I judged. And sniggered. Certainly, I found myself being very critical of a woman for a decision she made without knowing her, her background and life experiences, or the reasons behind her choice. Before saying much more, have a look for yourself ….
After watching this YouTube clip (and maybe regretting stumbling across it!), I formed definite opinions about this woman, her family and what her future possibly held. Those opinions weren’t particularly favourable by the way, and now I find myself philosophising about my right to judge this stranger when her actions are really none of my business at all.
Possibly my main concern is the fear that society may be losing its sense of ‘time and place’, are we remembering what’s appropriate for when and where? Judging by the looks on the faces of some of these wedding guests, they were not anticipating the bride to walk/pole dance down the aisle to poorly sung explicit lyrics. Bless that poor man in the navy shirt attempting to shield his son from the sight. Bless Grandma too, as she looks to make an exit towards the end.
Do you think that this woman was wise to exercise her right to choose whatever song she wanted for her own special day? Is it nobody’s business but hers? Are we justified in judging when the rights of others (in this instance those wedding guests) not to see or hear something are compromised?
I’d love some discussion around this, what are your thoughts?
PS. After more than a million views and a truckload of unflattering comments, I’m guessing she may regret her daughter uploading this to YouTube . Going viral is not always a good thing, right?
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