Having a baby is one of the most amazing experiences a person can go through. However, it is one that has a monumental impact on a woman’s life. Not only do you experience a love that you have never experienced before, but also your hormones can end up a bit all over the place. You may lose confidence in yourself or your ability to be a good mom. It is important to recognize that feeling like this is completely normal. After all, your body has experienced a lot of changes over the past nine months, and now life as you know it has changed too. However, it is important to make sure you get this confidence back sooner rather than later. With that being said, read on to discover some suggestions for becoming a more confident mom.
What Makes Moms Insecure?
New moms face many personal adjustments, from first having to deal with those feisty hormones to now having to deal with your new “Mom bod”, it is no wonder most of us moms lack confidence.
When you look in the mirror after bringing baby home, what is the first thing you notice?
Do you think to yourself, “Yay, I am an awesome, superwoman who just brought life into this world!” Probably not!
The first thing you probably notice, it your stretch marks, or how much weight you have to lose, should I go on?
All of these changes can take a toll on a person’s mind, as well as their self confidence. However, there is a way to be a more confident mommy.
How to become a more confident mom?
Whether you were already confident before your baby was born is one thing, but gaining the confidence now is going to take courage to face the things that are making you insecure. However, with the right focus and mindset you can be a confident mom.
Here are a few tips I used to build my confidence.
Take time for you
There is only one place to begin, and this is by taking time for yourself, and not feeling guilty about it! It is good to have some time to yourself, whether it is 15 minutes, an hour, or a day. You need to have balance in your life.
If you do not have time to rejuvenate yourself and replenish your soul, you are not going to be in a position to be at your very best for your child. You will find that you are ill tempered, frustrated, and lacking in patience.
The best thing to do is ensure that you regularly take the time to recharge your batteries, and you should never feel guilty for it. From listening to soothing music to taking a quick bubble bath, a bit of time out can ensure that you are your best and most confident self.
Beware competitive friends
Another step you need to take to ensure that you can become a more confident mom is being aware of your friends that are competitive, as opposed to being supportive. Please note that mother-in-laws often fall into the competitive category as well.
This basically relates to any sort of person that makes you doubt yourself and how you are bringing up your child. If someone is trying to make you feel like you are not doing something right as a parent or if they are making out like their child is developing at a quicker pace, simply shut them down by stating you are happy with your child’s development.
Don’t feel you need to hide your emotions
A lot of new moms put extra pressure on themselves because they feel like they need to hide their emotions. If your baby has been crying for hours and hours on end on a flight and you have jet lag, it is okay to feel emotional and stressed out.
In fact, it can sometimes be a good thing for your baby to see you upset. Of course, you need to ensure that this does not happen regularly and that your emotions are justified. If you do this, it will help your child to understand how other people are feeling as well as helping them to learn how to handle emotions.
Focus on improving your confidence in general by doing something that makes you feel good
One of the best ways to be a more confident mom is to be a more confident person as a whole. To do this, you are going to need to look for different things you can do that will make you feel good about yourself.
There is no set formula in this regard. After all, we are all different and we all have different things that would make us feel good and confident about ourselves.
For example, for you, it may be about boosting your appearance, either through a new haircut or by booking a consultation with one of the plastic surgery physicians in your area. Someone else could be about spending a day relaxing at a spa.
Another person may be about taking a training course and developing their education in a new area. You get the point… it is all about finding what truly works for you and makes you feel better and more confident.
Take notes
Another way to be a more confident mom is to take notes. After all, when you are under stress, which all new moms are, then it can be very difficult to digest the information that your pediatrician has given you.
This is why it is a good idea to bring a notebook with you whenever you have an important appointment so you can jot down all of the instructions that have been given to you.
Last Thing You Need to Know
These are my favorite techniques and they were important in helping me gain back my confidence as a mom. However, what ever makes you insecure can be looked at in a positive way.
Just give yourself time and don’t ever feel guilty for it. Don’t focus on the negative, and remember you deserve to be looked at in a positive light.
You can do it mommas!