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I think it matters for straight women.
For straight men, I am not so sure. Quite a few will refuse to date a woman who has a high lay count. But not me. I have had gf’s who had experienced 50 sex partners, 3ways, lesbian affairs, you name it. This did not bother me at all, and I had long-term love affairs with them.
Men don’t care about inexperienced women. My last gf was an 18 year old girl who not only was a virgin, but she had never been kissed! It was fine with me.
Women are different. If a man is too sexually inexperienced by too late an age, females may find him to be a disgusting nerd, loser, Beta, Omega, etc. I don’t know what to say about that, but if you are still a kiss-less virgin at age 25–30, I would not go around shouting it to the skies.
If a man has a high lay count, in straight society he is simply a stud. If word gets around about his lay count, he may well get dates based on that alone, as a certain type of female is attracted to guys with high lay counts. He’s a stud, and she wants a stud. A lot of females think this way, but it is more common when they are younger.
I knew a guy in college who were the wildest womanizers you ever met. He would literally date and have sex with 3–4 females every single day. Supposedly he was an evil predator or something in the new feminist way of thinking, but back then, everyone loved these guys. Females would hear about him, and their first reaction would be, “How do I get in on this?” They would almost literally line up outside his house and even take a number to get a shot at him.
This question is difficult because I sort of have to divulge my numbers. All I will say is I have dated over 200 females in my life. Of course I didn’t have sex with all of them. You can extrapolate a lay count from that. At my age (60), women actually ask how many sex partners you have had. It’s part of the “job interview” before they date you or early in the relationship.
Although of course there are women who get excited when they hear my numbers, there are others who have flat out rejected me. I am actually losing dates from having been too much of a player! A couple of women have recently told me that I am too much of a slut and consequently they won’t date me. One said she had a rule that the men she dated could have a maximum of 20 sex partners, no more.
So you can get to a point in life where you have had sex with so many women that other women won’t even go out with you! Who would have thought?