Of course they don’t check out women, not like straight men do. I work in mental health, and I have had several gay clients. Due to the nature of my work, I often have to do a sexual orientation workup of most people who come to me. I routinely do it for people who tell me they are gay.
I ask gay men a number of things:
- Do you ever fantasize about women sexually?
- Do you ever masturbate and think about women?
- Do you ever check out women in a sexual way? Do you look at women? Do you check them out?
So far, every gay man who I have questioned has answered an emphatic no to all three of those questions.
It may be safely determined that the vast majority of gay men either rarely or never check out women, never fantasize sexually about women, and never think about women or sex with women when they masturbate. I assume some gay men may rarely do these things, but I have not met one yet.
Gay men are simply not turned on by women. Like, not at all. Like, not even 1%.
This has been my professional observation over five years.
If you are actually checking out women in a sexual way like straight men do habitually or even reflexively if not unconsciously, I would have to say you are some form of bisexual. What’s really important is who turns you on more, males or females? Don’t say both because science has proven that only 1% of all men are equally attracted to both sexes.
I have a test which I think is much better than the Kinsey Scale, and I routinely give it to my clients as part of a sexual orientation workup. Here it is. Tell us where you are on this chart, and we can figure out your sexual orientation:
100-0: Maximum heterosexual, minimum homosexual
90-10: Maximum heterosexual, incidental homosexual
80-20: Maximum heterosexual, significant homosexual
70-30: Maximum heterosexual, strong homosexual
60-40: Maximum heterosexual, very strong strong homosexual
50-50: Maximum heterosexual, maximal homosexual
40-60: Maximum homosexual, very strong heterosexual
30-70: Maximum homosexual, strong heterosexual
20-80: Maximum homosexual, significant heterosexual
10-90: Maximum homosexual, incidental heterosexual
0-100: Maximum homosexual, minimal heterosexual
All of my clients love this scale, and no one has complained yet. Also, incredibly, almost everyone almost immediately gives me a score on the scale, just like that. I think most people really do know their sexual orientation. If you sit down and think about it, it’s just not hard to figure out. So far in my work the only people I have met who claim to not know their orientation have been gay men in denial about homosexuality (which incidentally is quite easy to determine) or mentally ill people with some anxiety disorder. There’s no reason to be confused about your orientation. Past a certain age, it’s as clear as air.