Here. This is the IMDB site which discusses movies. In this case, they talk about The 40 Year Old Virgin movie. They are referencing this article of mine – Women Hate Guys Who Aren’t Getting Any. The commenters are saying that I am full of it – that women do not hate guys who aren’t getting any. However, I still hold to the basic premise of my piece.
Just to give you a personal example, when I first moved to Madera, I moved into this apartment. I lived by myself for some time here and I really didn’t have any friends, nor was I dating. I will not say how long this period lasted, but I will say it was months rather than years. Then this woman I know drove up to see me from where she lived a few hundred miles away. She stayed here with me for a couple of weeks. She was quite good looking and we went everywhere together.
Before that, a lot of the people in the complex supposedly hated me. I never figured out why, but one kid said, “It’s because you don’t have a wife and you don’t have kids, so they think you must be weird and dangerous.” I live with a bunch of stupid people, mostly Hispanics but some Blacks. These types all marry early and have kids. In those cultures, no one does the never marrying, no kids, live alone thing. If they see someone doing that, they think it is extremely weird and that person must be crazy, dangerous or a criminal.
Anyway, after that cutie stayed with me for a couple of weeks, a lot of those people who supposedly hated me before now apparently treated me like I was worth a million bucks. My worth in the community went up by about 1,000,000%
I have been single my whole life. There have been periods when I had girlfriends and periods when I did not. I even had some incel periods. I have dated a couple hundred females, true, but there have also been some dry spells. So I know all about this.
People say that sex is a private matter, and maybe that is true. But I think it is more of a public matter than one might think. Adults are expected to be having sex if not regularly, at least from time to time. Adults who do not appear to be having sex are treated like freaks and regarded with contempt. This shows that adult society places a high value on the sex act and feels that normal adults should be engaging in sex from time to time at least.
If you are not having sex, you could at least be living with someone of the opposite sex. There are quite a few sexless marriages out there, and after a certain age, most couples even stop doing it. These people are given a break because they are cohabiting with a member of the opposite sex. No one knows what is going on the bedroom, so they get a break as far as that goes.
If you’re not having sex, at least live with someone of the opposite sex.
I stand by the premise of my article. I do not think you need to be having sex all the time, but you should at least be seen with a woman who is hopefully your lover from time to time. People have a lot of respect for the bachelor who lives through downpours and dry spells. I think quite a few people might even respect a bachelor who hates maybe 3 weeks out of a year. I am not sure if people care how often you are doing it, at least past a certain age. They just want to make sure that you are normal in the sexual realm.