3 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence If Coming Out Was Traumatic

By Urbanmatter Chicago @UMatterChicago

Coming out is often a momentous occasion for anybody who is gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Whether you tell your close friends or family or have reached a point where you’re happy to let everybody know, your experience of coming out is unique and personal to you and there’s no right or wrong way to do it – whatever feels right to you, is perfect. However, after coming out, it’s not uncommon to feel nervous and apprehensive about what is to come, especially if you didn’t get the support you needed. Maybe you are dealing with problematic people in your life who are struggling to accept you for who you are. Here are some tips to help you build your confidence, improve your dating life, and learn to love yourself more after coming out. 

Date for Fun

Now is probably not the time to look for a very serious relationship, unless you’re sure that you are ready. If knowing and accepting that you are gay is very new to you, then it might take a while for you to adjust. Dating for fun is a great way to do this as you’ll be exposed to people from the LGBTQA community who can relate to what you are going through. Perhaps you will end up meeting your soulmate, but if not, you will likely make some very good friends. Check out this lesbian chat room where you can talk and date with like-minded people. 

Surround Yourself With Supportive People

Coming out is not always everything that it is cracked up to be in the movies. For many people, it can be a very scary time with a lot of anxiety and self-questioning. Now is not a good time to surround yourself with people who are unsupportive of who you are. If this means finding new friends, understand that this can be scary, but real friends will always support you and be there for you. A gay chat room could be useful if you would like to meet new people who you can relate to; many people in the LGBTQA community have been through what you are going through right now and are willing to lend a listening ear. 

Talk it Out

Coming out can be a traumatic experience for some people especially if you were not accepted by the people who mean the most to you. While acceptance of LGBTQA is growing around the world, there are still people who are homophobic or ignorant, and if you’re close to somebody like this it can have a serious impact on your feelings and mental health. Speaking to a therapist who is experienced in LGBTQA support can help you find yourself once again and thrive as your authentic self regardless of what other people might say. 

Coming out as gay, lesbian, or bisexual can be a stressful experience for some. Surround yourself with the right people and never be afraid to speak about how you feel.

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