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Guest Post: Starting from Early Years – Cope with Your Offenders and Reach Zen

By Rohan @rohanforsale

While I continue to focus on my music career for the time being please welcome another awesome guest contributor, Melisa Marzett! – Rohan.

Personal philosophy: Starting from early years – cope with your offenders and reach Zen

“Words are very unnecessary
They can only do harm”

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It is often said that sometimes words may actually hurt… hurt more than anything else. Harsh and rude words cause pain that surpass the worst physical pain. As usual such words are pronounced by offenders, who try to raise personal authority at the expense of somebody’s humiliation.  The point is one must fight for dignity and the right to express personal opinion anywhere and anytime. However there are plenty of situations, when it’s pretty hard to stand for yourself.

You cannot ignore the fact, that it’s very important to learn how to stand for yourself in early ages, because later one, you will have to teach children and grandchildren how to handle daily troubles. Besides, if you can’t defend yourself, who will be able to?

So remember the following:

  • when you stand for yourself, don’t stutter, mumble or speak softly. Talk loud and clear;
  • take  control of the situation, if you have to offer an ultimatum – do it, make others to understand you are not that easy to bully;
  • offenders don’t expect resistance, so shock them and resist! Learn to show your courage and dignity, learn to express your point of view openly, when it’s necessary.

“Words like violence
Break the silence
Come crashing in
Into my little world”

It is undeniable that finding your Zen is an difficult way: To reach your inner peace, you don’t have to meditate all day long, nevertheless to think and to get rid of daily rut and troubles is a must. Each of us needs personal space, a personal world, where no one bothers us and establish the rules. Everyone needs time to have rest from others and as famous Depeche Mode sing:  “Enjoy the silence”.

Certainly, there are plenty of reasons to be pissed off: unfortunately family members, troublesome neighbours or even co-workers will do their best to get under your skin and to make you angry. To calm down one may count down from ten or to breath deeply. In the case that it didn’t help, read poetry aloud to cope with your irritation or anger. Finally you can subscribe to anger management classes.

Nevertheless, to find inner peace isn’t as simple as it sounds. To reach that state of mind and soul, it is necessary to find a quiet place to let the body to be in peace. What may help are positive thoughts, calm music, relaxing atmosphere and “me time”. It may sound a little bit egoistic, however it works. Solitude helps, especially if the person has something in particular to think about, something which is “between me and … me”.

The last but not the least is to give a try to your hidden abilities, do whatever you always wanted to do: to travel, to paint, to sing, to dance; take beginners classes and release the potential and find inner peace.

“Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that’s where I renew my springs that never dry up”, Pearl Buck

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He gains the understanding of health care, meditation, psychology and social relations. Whether you need more to have impression of Melisa Marzett, you can find him at Google+.

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