Expressing Love in Creative Ways
Marriage advice abounds. You can read it in books and on the internet. You can hear it from friends and family. But what I am going to tell you today is a little different. Today we’re starting at the basics: how to show “I love you.”
In a recent counseling session, a husband noted that when his wife said “I love you,” that the words seemed hollow. I asked for more information. He said that he needed to see “actions” behind the words. He explained how his mother used to leave him notes in his lunch box saying she loved him. She went out of her way to make sure he heard her message in different ways.
His wife asked him what he wanted her to do. He said that she could ask, when he came home from work, how his day went. In turn, she asked if they could hold hands when they walked down the street. It was an informative session for all.
For some people, saying “I love you” is routine, such as at the end of a phone call. If that works for you, go for it. If it doesn’t, speak up to your partner. As I have frequently mentioned, information is the key. We need to share what we want, or what we want can go unnoticed. Communicate to your partner, on all levels, about your feelings of love for him or her. Affection is like the air we breathe. We need air to survive, and in the same way, many people need love for a romantic relationship to flourish.
Tomorrow, see how many creative ways you can show “I love you” to your special someone. Here are some ideas: Compliment her outfit. When he walks in the room from work, shut off the tv and make eye contact in order to talk. Clear the snow off her windshield in the morning. Leave the porch light on if he’s coming home late.
Whatever you do, say it with kindness. And do not expect anything in return for your efforts. Wayne Dyer says of love: Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence they satisfy you.”
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