If you have are looking at yet another negative pregnancy test or are feeling the first signs of that unwelcome period once again, it is hard not to get depressed. My husband and I went through the motions of hoping we were finally expecting for more than a year, and the final months before turning to a doctor were less than exciting.
We both had a distinct feeling that it was not going to happen for us – not naturally. When should you stop wondering how to get pregnant naturally, and start worrying about infertility?
There are lots of couples who get worried at the three-month mark. The reality is that only a third of couples who regularly have unprotected intercourse get pregnant within three months. You might think half a year is a long time to wait (and it is!) but statistics tell us that only half of those who are hoping for a visit from the stork have had a positive pregnancy test within six months. In comparison, 90 percent get pregnant within a year and 95 percent will be expecting after two years of trying.
When it comes to infertility, there are no hard and fast rules. If you are already worried that you might not be able to get pregnant naturally, the first thing I can advise you is to read as much as possible about how to maximize your chances of conceiving.
Are you sure that you know when you are ovulating? Women who are just using an ovulation calendar, for instance, might be having sex at the wrong time. With ovulation tests, you can find out whether and when you are ovulating. Eating more healthily, losing weight, or ensuring you have no nutritional deficiencies might make all the difference for some couples. Don’t forget that the male partner’s health is just as important as the woman’s; something that is often forgotten because it’s the woman who gets pregnant.
If you are already doing everything you can to get pregnant and it still is not happening, visiting a doctor after a year of trying if you are over 35 or after two years if you are in your twenties or early thirties is a good idea. And those who have been using ovulation tests but have never had a positive result have good reason to suspect they are not ovulating. In that case, seek out help as soon as you can.
Olivia had two children through IUI after her husband turned out to have sperm-count problems. She writes about fertility treatments, getting pregnant, and pregnancy at Trying To Conceive.