Ne te quaesiveris
Do not look outside of yourself for the truth
There are times in our lives when we cast judgement, doubt ourselves, doubt our co-workers, doubt our families and even our partners.
We are all so keen to change the world but yet we aren’t willing to change ourselves.
We look for answers everywhere except the one place we should be looking, within ourselves.
Someone once told me, once you trust yourself, your beliefs, your values and your morals – you will start living.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about what this person said (may he RIP), they were wise words, very wise words but how true are they?
How many of us at some point in our lives have been ‘fake’? How many of us choose to be someone we are not just for society sake? How many of us pretend to be someone else to better ourselves in a situation?
The minute that you take control of your life, the path will be clear. What are your hopes and your dreams? Do you want love? Affection? Or just attention?
Don’t destroy someone else’s happiness just for your five minutes of attention and glory.
Don’t strive for everything and gain nothing.
If you choose love, love well, love honestly.
So long as you trust yourself and your decisions- the road ahead will not be bumpy and if it is, those bumps will be bumps that you have created not bumps that have just suddenly appeared.
Don’t expect the unexpected. Expect everything and more.
Trusting yourself is the ultimate gamble in life. Having faith in yourself is risky but believe you are great and you will be!
There is actually a challenge going on right now on twitter with the hash tag #trust30
For thirty days there will be prompts about basically learning to trust yourself. It’s the whole reason behind this post.
Today’s prompt was this:
Set a timer: you have 15 minutes left to live. Write your story.
The time is now 00.55am.. My timer just started.
‘My story is a good story, one that may interest some of you, others may think what’s the point to this’.
Have I lived a happy life? Have I been content?
Honestly, 80% of the time, yes. We have all had our ups and downs, at times more downs than ups.
I don’t have regrets, I’m not one for regretting anything that I have done in my life. Are there things I wish I hadn’t done? Yes. Of course there are, but I don’t regret them. They are part of me, part of what made me the person that I became.
Am I a good person? I believe so. Am I moody? Yes, I’m that too. I’m a woman, we have good days and bad days, and on the really bad days- I can be super pmsy, but, that’s part of nature versus nurture. Depending on where I am and the environment I’m in will always affect my mood.
Have I achieved everything that I have wanted to achieve? Probably not but I am proud of myself and the things that I have overcome and achieved.
My health has been pretty crappy over the years and I have suffered for it but I also kicked ass and fought my way through it like a real emerald warrior.
Socially – how have I been? Well, honestly, I’m not a people person. I don’t really like to have a large group of friends, I can count my close friends on one hand.
What annoyed me most during this life? Honestly, the fact that Africa is literally deserted – hundreds of years later after constant charity, we still have 4 children dying a minute of malnutrition but yet our governments can spend millions on unnecessary wars.
What would I have changed about myself? Nothing. I’m me. Feisty, emotional, dramatic, sensitive but most of all, loving. I like to think that my life has been that of Romeo and Juliet, even if it hasn’t been, I’ve always thought so.
The one thing that I can honestly say is, I am honest. If I didn’t like you, you would know it, if I didn’t want to be friends with you, I wouldn’t have been.
The one thing that I can honestly say hand on my heart is this: My husband gave me the most wonderful gift of all, my two precious children. The moment that they came into this world, nothing else mattered, I realised the reason for living, procreating. BoKhalid and I had created two absolute beauties that would give us joy and heartache, laughs and tears but it really was the best thing that ever happened to me, and I owe that to my husband. You made my life complete. You made my life worth living. You have me my precious babies and for that, I will love you forever until death do us part.
I still have 4 minutes… But I think if I truly had 4 minutes left to
Live, I would want to spend them
In the arms of my husband with my
Children by my side.
But, since I have to write for 15
Minutes as per the hash tag #trust30
I will give you my top life tips in no particular order:
1. Trust Yourself
2. Have Faith
3. Be Loyal
4. Have friends
5. Cry- it always helps, regardless of what the books say.
6. Laugh ALOT
7. Cherish those that matter
8. Be yourself
9. Love unconditionally
And finally with about 20
Seconds to go….
10. Never ever hurt another human being intentionally.
