AS A KIND-HEARTED BLOGGER I PLEDGE TO:
- create, inspire, and admire rather than compete with fellow bloggers
- be understanding of each other-- in the blogging community, as well as in the world
- stay away from internet/blogging bullying
- speak my opinion freely, while still being mindful of other's feelings-- be tactful
- make an effort--no matter how big or small the gesture, to spread kindness or joy to others
- acknowledge that I will make mistakes, (I am only human) but remember to learn from them
- know that at times I will post about the negative stuff in life, and maybe even some complaining (I am only human) but I will always follow up with something happy/positive too.
- believe that this world is a good place, filled with good people
I wasn't going to bother mentioning this here but this post from jo annie helped to change my mind. I am not angry, or lashing out.I am as she put it on her site speaking from my heart. If you don't like heartfelt information than please don't go any further. I just needed to get this off my chestand move on. If you are leaving now. Thank you for dropping byI hope to see you again!!Nicky
For those of you who are going to venture out further below. I just wanted to explain something
I have since decided I am going to take the pledge and encourage those of you who are tired of hearing negative feedback, comments, insults and any other negative things that have happened to you since the start of blogging. I have been told that there have been a lot of negativecomments made about my posts on Twitter. I got and saved a letter from a fellowblogger who in the letter was trying to be as polite as possible so as notto be included in the public hanging I was getting. I took the high road, said Thank you for the letter, information and her tips. I was hesitant about whather intention was but I went against my better judgment and answeredher letter anyways.
Personally I left high school a long long time ago. I did not like all the bullying, orjust plain nasty things that we all are guilty of at one time or another when we were younger. But I am now 35 years old, I got married in 1995, I lost my first baby boy in 1994. I have since been raising two beautiful boys. I have managed to quit drugs, smoking and manage depression.I DO NOT NEED ANY ONE'S APPROVAL ANYMORE!!Now I am not being mean, disrespectful or trying to start anything. I do these posts for me, I like seeing my nail art. I love reading and seeing your nail art, BUT I don't know why it is some of you think that because you have lots of followers that you can go around insulting otherwoman behind my back on Twitter! I don't understand. Yes your nails are better cleaned up you all seem to have this section of your nailsthat have no polish on them, I can't seem to do that to save my life.But so what!! My nails were misshapen yes, I am doing my own gel fills, having never been taught, only getting to practice that once a month so yes it is taking a way longer time that if I was in school and doing all my classmates nails and some practice client nails. That isn't the point.I don't understand why some of you are insulting me, my blog but still coming to see what I am doing? WHY??? If my nails offend you so muchwhy do you come back. I don't need followers who are onlyhere to see my fails or to have something to report to the Twitter followersabout how crappy you think my nails are.I love the fact that I have so many followers. I do! I get so excited everytime I come see if I lost or have any new followers. I appreciateyou. The ones who come here, see my nails, leave a commentnice or not that is what this is all about. I get that! What I don't understandis why that the same bloggers who talk about this great community in onepost is the one who is actually leading my lynch mob, so to speak. How is that building a great community? You are helping to build a "CLICK"That is all you are doing. I can join only if my nails are short enough, shapedthe right way, use the right colors and do my blogging the same as yours!In my polite letter from a supposedly concerned fellow blogger(who hasn't even replied to my letter or my questions by the way) there is nothing about this experience that shows me the nail community is a nice place.I love posting stuff about my nails mainly because I get to tell my hubby that I NEED new nail stuff cuz I have to keep up withall the other bloggers, and look I have lots of ladies who come readmy blog I need new stuff to show them.LOL. So far it has been working.I am not angry, I am not going to tell these women off. I am going to take this pledge, give kindness to all I come in to contact withespecially online, I am going to continue posting pics of my nails, polishesand whatever else I end up posting here. I want to hear from all of youI don't want just empty compliments given, I don't need all positive, BUT I do deserve respect! I do know that. Talking about or saying nasty thingsabout another person be it in the blogging community or a friend whenthat person can't be there to at least defend herself is just wrong.I hope you will join me and over 400 other bloggers who have joinedthis movement. I hope that you will join me in living these words notjust putting the badge up to look good. I am going to live theseguidelines everyday. It is hard I have a next door neighbor who I have a very hard time not speaking badly to my hubby about but I am tryingto be kind. I really hope that I do not lose the followers I have that are sincere.I am ok in the knowledge I will lose some, mainly those who I am talking about but that is ok. I know that if I live these guidlines here and in my personal life I will get many more followers who are here to enjoythe nail art I am trying to create. I am sorry for making this a personal, and long post.This issue needed to be addressed for me to hold my head high, know that I tookthe high road, I did not let my anger and hurt feelings get in the way of what I thinkis a great blog! I hope you will come by again and see what else I come up with. I love to hear from you all!!!Nicky