When I met with Mom and the hospice nurse on Monday, I called to tell both my brothers about the conversation. She didn't sugar coat how close to death Dad was. She also didn't make a prediction about when he would pass. I told them both I hoped it was soon so Dad's suffering would be over. I know that sounds callous, but it was really hard to watch my strong and independent father struggle for breath.
The call came today just after I brought the girls home from their first day of school. By the time I arrived, Dad was already gone. Officially the hospice nurse declared his time of death to be 4:00 p.m. He was gone. His suffering was over.
People kept telling me to talk to Dad about whatever was on my mind so I wouldn't have any regrets. Last Saturday, probably the last really lucid day he had, I leaned over to kiss him goodbye. I said, "I love you Dad." He smiled and said, "I love you too Shari. Kiss my girls for me."
I'm not sure I could have any regrets with that as our last conversation. Rest in peace Dad. I love you and miss you.