Are there alternate screening methods aside from P411? I’ve heard horror stories about the site’s actual discretion. A hobbyist can get verified if a P411 girl recommends him, but the catch-22 is getting seen in the first place. I visited two newbie friendly FBSM-only providers (they used LinkedIn for screening, which I felt was risky). The first one seemed offended when I asked about referrals, and the second was willing to help, but didn’t know how to use TER whitelist or otherwise offer a referral. How should I proceed?
As I’ve written in the past, there are indeed some well-known problems with P411, but most of those have been schemes to entrap and harm sex workers rather than clients. Certainly, being on a whitelist like P411 or Date Check can expedite matters, but if you’re nervous about such lists you don’t have to use them; referrals are one of the most commonly-used and widely-accepted methods of screening, and they don’t require an intermediary at all. You’ve already completed the first step by seeing two providers; some full-service escorts may not accept references from FBSM ladies, but I don’t think that’s the norm. All you need to do now is find an escort you like and provide her with the names, email addresses & phone numbers of the ladies you’ve already seen. If she doesn’t accept them (because she doesn’t know them, or excludes FBSM providers or whatever) you’ll need to try someone else, but I think you’ll be able to find someone pretty quickly. If possible, try to pick a lady who’s well-established and has been around for a while; once you can give one or two strong names as references, you shouldn’t have any more problems as long as you are generous, behave like a gentleman and otherwise act in such a way that escorts won’t have any qualms about vouching for you to our sisters.
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