I’m going be talking about a few parenting pet hates of mine and some mums that I asked on the group, and here’s my trying to put it into my own words. I am a mom on Emma’s Facebook group so have spoken and seen many mums expressing their own parenting pet hate.
You know the trouble nowadays with all these different rules? New mums have no idea what to do, they said you do this then you do that.
For example when my daughter was born (which was only last June) I was told to make her bottle with boiling water and stand it to cool in some cold water. Two months later I was told you can only use boiled water once and to cool it under a running stream of cold water. Now sorry but I don’t have the time to do that, you know having a young child and all?
There’s the other thing formula or breast milk. I understand the whole ‘breast is best’ thing but come on, is there really any need to make mums who can’t breast feed bad. I breastfed my daughter for 2 weeks and felt such a failure I wasn’t able to do it longer, having people looking down on you for giving your baby formula and half don’t know the reason why they just assume you’ve done it because it’s ‘easier’
The trouble when you’re a new mom is everyone asking ‘are you having any more?’ I’m sorry but I’ve just been split into two pretty much that is the last thing on my mind! But why is it we always answer yes?! It’s like something in our brain just speaks on autopilot.
The trouble for every one of us is when our children are screaming blue murder in public and people have the nerve to give us dirty looks, we can ignore them, we can scream out in frustration we can do anything but will that suddenly make your children quite, NO!
So get off our backs cause I’m sure when you were little you were no angel! People expect all babies to be the same be it the tantrums they throw, their sleep patterns, when they crawl, walk, talk, no baby is the same so take a step back and stop telling us what they should (or shouldn’t) be doing, they will do it in their own time and us as their parents support them all the way.
I can speak for myself and many other mums when I say this is what bugs us most, the men buggering off and leaving us to do it all. They say their tired and that they just want to sleep or sit down. Are you up at daft o’clock in the morning, getting yourself ready, however many children ready, getting them all fed and clean, entertaining them all, making lunch, making dinner, cleaning up just for it to be a tip again? … NO.
Did you carry them for 9 month, morning sickness, back ache, swelling, hormonal attacks that come from nowhere and go through the pain of giving birth ? Again NO! Swap routines for a day and then see how easy our routine is.
My last parenting pet hate is people asking the most obvious stupid question. Are they a boy or a girl? OMG open your eyes people. Covered in head to toe in pink, it’s a girl. Covered in head to toe in blues, greens, it’s a boy. An old woman stopped me in a post office, my daughter was in a bright pink stroller, a headband, some jeans pink coat and pink shoes and I was asked ‘what’s HIS name?’ I could have face-palmed myself.
What is your worst parenting pet hate?
