Health Magazine

Motherhood and Autism

By Joysautismblog @joysautismblog

“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”~Unknown

When Adrian came into our lives not only did I receive the title of “Mother of 2″ but I also received the title, of “autism advocate”. Prior to Adrian’s diagnosis in April of 2006 I knew practically nothing about autism. Now, Adrian is 7 years old. On the day he was born back in March of 2004 he came out an 8 pound 6 ounce healthy baby boy. We breathed a sigh of relief, healthy, perfect, grand dreams of his future. Looking back I can see how naive that is. I was 21 years old when I had him and had a “it can never happen to us” kind of attitude when it came to sickness, disorder, or disability. Very little can make you gain more compassion and understanding faster then a special needs diagnosis being placed on your child.

“One may walk over the highest mountain one step at a time.” ~ John Wanamaker

As he grew into a toddler and we watched him develop we had no clue any of his behaviors were atypical . We joked that he was the strong and silent type and the hand flappinig he did? “Well isn’t that cute…he’s so excited.” At that time, little did we know, that is a big red flag. And “Oh look, he’s going to be engineer, look at him examine the hinges on that cupboard!”, another waving red flag of autism.

By the time Adrian was 18 months old we knew that autism was our new reality. It hit me and before I knew it I was diving head first into the autism world, soaking up information and mourning what could have been. Most of my days were filled with appointments for Adrian, getting him the early intervention that he needed. In the quiet moments I would cry out, “Why? Why our family? I don’t understand, it’s not fair!” We recently passed the 5 year mark of Adrian’s diagnosis and the whole family has really come to terms with autism means for Adrian and for our family. We still go through difficult times but the hard times seem to get further apart and the good times are more often.

I am thankful for autism’s early warning signs. We were able to start Adrian with early intervention before he turned two years old. Early intervention can really make all the difference.

We were and still are full of hope for his future.

“There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ~Albert Einstein

Adrian is now talking in full sentences most of the time. Adrian is beginning to read and write. Adrian is starting to behave more appropriately in social situations. We celebrate these accomplishments. Every word he says, every word he reads, every social outing can be a celebration for our family. Adrian’s victories are his to own and we are very proud of him. It hasn’t come easily, I will never forget when he was about three years old for some reason I resolved to teach him to say the word “water”. It was absolutely painstaking. I would work on it every day for months and months and I remember thinking one day that he was just never going to say it and then lo’ and behold he did say it. Sometimes working with him I didn’t see the progress , it seemed like I was just treading water, although, slowly but surely we were paddling our way forward.

“Not everything that steps out of line, and thus ‘abnormal,’ must necessarily be ‘inferior.” ~Hans Asperger

One day someone told me “I’m sorry about your son.” I was really taken aback, confused, sorry about my son? Why? My son is everything I want. I couldn’t imagine another son or a different kind of Adrian. Adrian is who he is, and there is nothing to be sorry about in that.

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” ~Washington Irving

I can say without a doubt, I am so glad that Adrian is mine. I am proud to be his mother. The joy, love, and happiness that he has brought our family is too great for words. I will love him, I will accept him, I will stand by him. He is my son. He is my friend.

I hope everyone had a great Mother’s Day with their loved ones. If you’d like to enter my Mother’s Day Giveaway please do so by this coming Saturday. I will choose a winner on Sunday.

You Might Also Like :

Back to Featured Articles on Logo Paperblog

These articles might interest you :

  • White Chocolate Mousse with Strawberries

    White Chocolate Mousse with Strawberries

    Hooray for British Strawberry Season which is just beginning! I try hard not to eat strawberries at any other time of the year. They are always hugely... Read more

    15 hours, 21 minutes ago by   Mariealicerayner
  • How Far Can Too Fargo?


    For such a tiny place, a lot of big things seem to happen in the town of Fargo.After the successful Cohen Brothers movie, audiences could be forgiven for... Read more

    16 hours, 34 minutes ago by   Thedook71
  • In The Bag?


    Manchester Monday night - what a frightful blight on young lives; a city rocked in the wrong way. The response has been resilience, a positive bonding of many... Read more

    18 hours, 14 minutes ago by   Ashleylister
  • All I Have To Do Is Stay Black And Die (or…The Road To Hell Is Paved With Good...

    Have Stay Black (or…The Road Hell Paved With Good Intent)

    So...over the Facebook wires yesterday came this..... The UU Congregation of Atlanta is moving. And in their information gathering, a survey was created. This... Read more

    The 27 May 2017 by   Eastofmidnight
  • Grand Union Canal Race 2017 – Updates

    Grand Union Canal Race 2017 Updates

    The 25th edition of the revered Grand Union Canal Race 2017 kicked off this morning at 6:00 am with a 107 starters.This 145 mile non-stop race from Gas Street... Read more

    The 27 May 2017 by   Abichal
  • On Monasteries, Children, and Loving Our Enemies

    Monasteries, Children, Loving Enemies

    Gunmen Kill at Least 28 Coptic Christians in Egypt The headline spares nothing, except that there were children. I numbly read the article describing the... Read more

    The 27 May 2017 by   Marilyngardner5
  • Pouzza Fest 7 Brings Punk Rockers Together in Montreal

    Pouzza Fest Brings Punk Rockers Together Montreal

    Montreal’s 7th annual city punk festival Pouzza Fest took place last weekend in downtown Montreal including five indoor venues and  an outdoor The post Pouzza... Read more

    The 27 May 2017 by   Hendrik Pape