Batman says:
Robert, may be you understand women as well because you have a feminine brain (high verbal IQ high social IQ) as pumpkinperson.com already stated?
The other “macho” part of you come from the fact you have a lot of testosterone.
Yes I have a feminine brain in a way, but I don’t want to be a woman. I want to be a man, and I love being a man. I feel like women are my twins though, which is very strange. It’s like I am one of them, or they are one of me. We are the same. And at the same time, I’m very much a man.
I freak people out. Through my whole life quite a few people have thought I was gay or bi. Usually women and girls thought I was bi because most women are not retarded about such things, and they can figure out if a guy likes women. It’s trivial to figure out if a guy likes women or not, and gay men just don’t like women. For instance, gay men never check out women like straight men do. I’ve never in my life seen a gay man girlwatching, leering at or ogling women like straight men do. They just don’t do it.
Any guy who extremely obviously is a pussy maniac, most females assume logically that he can’t possibly be gay, but he might be bi due to behavioral stuff such as the way he acts. How does a woman know if a man is a pussy maniac? You can tell by how he acts when he is around you. You can tell by how he acts when he is around, especially good-looking ones. Sexual orientation in terms of whether a man likes women or not is typically as clear as air.
Men are much worse on all of the stuff and notoriously cannot tell a gay man from a straight man. Straight men have insane ideas of what it means to straight, and if you don’t fit into that bullshit, you’re gay, period.
But a lot of straight men are not morons, and I have always gotten along even with really macho guys. I used to work working class jobs at factories, plants, construction, security guard, janitorial, dishwashing, taxi driver, and a lot of macho guys often seem to accept on some level. It took me a long time to figure out that what they accept in me is that I am doing the stereotypical masculine or macho thing.
You could almost write a book on what that means, but it is a whole set behaviors, attitudes and emotions that simply shows you are “acting like a man.” Guys who don’t act that way are pussies, wimps, fags, etc.
And most gay men do not really act this way. It’s very rare for a gay man to act very masculine or macho. I’ve only seen one case in my whole life. So-called “straight-acting” gay men are only called that because they are not overtly effeminate. However, even these men are typically rather soft and metrosexual. However, the behavior range of straight-acting metrosexual gays does indeed overlap with a lot of the rather soft metrosexual straight men you see especially in large urban areas so there can be quite a bit of straight man/gay man overlap at that end of the range.
I remember this one stupid girlfriend said, “You don’t act like much of a man. I could see why other men would want to “test” you.” Apparently this is shit-testing?
Well that’s not really true! Even really macho guys often accept me because they are nonretarded enough to see the macho in any guy who has that in him. What’s weird is the most masculine guys can see the masculine in a man a lot better than the less masculine guys, who are rather of retarded about picking up on masculinity.I am not sure why that is but probably very masculine men are very aware of, invested in and tuned in to masculinity, so it’s simply something that they have their radar tuned into. Less masculine men don’t act very masculine, don’t think much of it and are not very interested in it when they are not outright turned off by it. Hence they don’t understand it very well and they can’t really pick up on it in others. The more you engage in a behavior, the more you see it in others. The less you you engage in a behavior, the more tune-deaf you are when you see it in others.
I even used to get along well with some motorcycle gang members! And for years I lived as a surf bum and ski bum. Surfers are notoriously macho and homophobic. It’s a pretty hardass culture. Skiers were usually badass and homophobic too. I saw few if any gay men on the waves or the slopes. I am not sure they are into “macho” sports.
Even motorcycle gang members sort of accepted me on some weird level. A lot of those macho guys see that macho part of me, and a light of recognition goes on and their attitude is, “Ok dude.” They shake my hand, and it’s like I am accepted and “part of the club.” You get accepted into Macho Club or something along those lines. You really have to act masculine for those guys to accept you.
Hardcore masculinity is a big deal for these men. They have invested a tremendous amount of psychic and psychological energy in this role, and I do not think it’s importance to them can be overestimated. Hypermasculinity is essential to their very mode and style of existence. It’s part of their being on an almost spiritual level, and it is a great big deal for them. It’s not a game.
But then they see that other feminine thing going on in me and their attitude is, “WTF. This guy doesn’t make sense.” I hear that all the time – “I don’t make sense,” and people have no idea what to make of me. I also hear, “You’re too sexy to be straight,” a lot, but I am not sure what it means.
The only guys who call me faggot and try to start fights with me are just thugs or bullies. A lot of times they are even criminals, like gang members.
Gay men probably understand masculinity better than any other humans. I know that sounds insane, but some of these guys have got it down! It’s pretty pitiful when gay men understand masculinity more than straight men or straight women.
Straight women do not have the slightest idea what masculinity means or what it is. They often accuse masculine men of being unmasculine. When it comes to understanding masculinity, all women are retards. This probably goes back to what I was discussing earlier about how macho men can easily see masculinity in others while less masculine men seem to be tone-deaf and retarded about it. Women are very unmasculine, so it makes sense that if they don’t play the game, they can’t tell when others are playing it either. Maybe in order to see something in another, you need to do it yourself.
It seems like as women get older, they can figure it out a lot better though and many are no longer retarded about this subject.
Older women can also identify which men are gay and which are not a lot better, sometimes even better than I can. They seem to “get it.”
I think older women have been around men for so long that they finally start figuring a lot of things out about us like masculinity, but it might take until age 50 to do that. I had no idea men were so hard to understand.
The accumulated knowledge of masculinity that women gain with age is often intuitive stuff.
I had one girlfriend who laughed very hard and said, “Oh, I know you’re not gay! For one thing, you always talk about eating pussy. No gay man would ever talk about eating pussy that much. They wouldn’t talk about it at all.”
She’s right. Gay men sometimes fuck women, but they are not keen on eating pussy. A lot of them say the idea of it makes them want to vomit. I’ve been around a lot of gay men in my life, but I’ve never heard of one talking about fucking women, and for sure they don’t talk about eating pussy.
My best friend used to be a hair stylist and while he is straight, a lot of those men are gay. We used to hang out in Hollywood, and sometimes we would be at someone’s house and it would be me, him and some gay hair stylists. My friend and I used to tease and torment these gay men by talking about eating pussy in gruesome detail.
“Yeah, you know, that nice, juicy, red pussy…Yum yum! So good!” We would put our hands in front of our faces thumbs turned outwards like parting a flower in front of our lips. The gay men would flip out!
“Oh shut up!”
“Gross!”
“Ewwwwwww!”
“You’re gonna make me sick!”
“I’m gonna vomit! Ew shut up!”
They would get very angry and usually threaten to throw us out of the house if we didn’t quit talking about that.
It was a barrel of ticks!
But it shows you what gay men think of cunnilingus – not a whole lot!