When you have your eye on a new guy or newly dating are you happy to allow him to see you make up free or is going au naturel too soon a little risky?
I think back to when I met Matt, he never saw me without make up in the first few months. I wore my best clothes and always sprayed deodorant and wore perfume.
I wanted to impress him and keep him interested. I would not have dared do make up free. It made me feel more confident wearing it.
Six years later it’s him telling me that the growth under my arms needs a trim and to change my sweaty socks, oh how times change.
As he sits and squeezes the ugly looking white head spot on my chin, I feel content. He loves me warts and all.
BUT
What would he have thought of dating a not so lady like women at the very start?
He would have run a mile he tells me laughing.
“She was gorgeous, I couldn’t believe my luck” he has told friends when asked how we met. I wonder what he would say now if a friend asked what it’s like waking up to me every morning?
My bed hair is now a regular look, I no longer spend hours getting myself ready.
I don’t care what I look like and unless I am going out somewhere nice.
I barely bother to brush my hair and tie it with a bobble, let alone apply my make-up. Yet on the odd occasions that I do, he always comments how nice I look.
I fart loudly in his company and he watches me having a wee. He has watched me give birth 3 times so I am certainly not shy around him.
I talk to him about my lady problems and to be honest I probably embarrass him most of the time.
Like the time I told him my sanitary towel had just ripped away a handful of pubic hair. The sticky part on the wings had attached to the wrong place and as I whipped it off, away came the hair. Ouch it hurt and I told him so.
He just shakes his head at me or tuts.
He knows me so well.
Maybe I need to start making more of an effort?
Do we get complacent when we are married or in a long term relationship?
Is going make up free when you first start dating not the right way to go about starting a new relationship?
Being able to show the real you and be confident in yourself.
Do men not find confident women more attractive?
We can’t sleep with our slap on each night can we and if he’s still there in the morning then he’s worth getting to know better right?
I know women who set their alarm so they are up before him, just to apply a bit of make up. I know of another who would not even open her door to the postman without her full face of slap on.
I had to laugh when I saw a women applying her make up while breastfeeding her newborn on the same ward as me. She had barely given birth but as visiting time was approaching as I lay there looking like I had just been dragged threw a hedge backwards, here she was looking like she was entering Miss World.
I tried to wear make up as much as I could when we first got together and I wonder if I should start making more of an effort, despite being together for so long now.
Did you go make up free when you first started dating or did you not dare?
