There's been a lot of talk about whether or not it is a good idea for parents to monitor their children's devices. It has come down to a debate between people thinking parents going through a child's phone is simply too intrusive and people thinking monitoring should be necessary. You know what I think? I think the use of parental controls, trackers, iPhone monitoring apps is completely justifiable. Just hear me out.
If a parent was to go through a child's diary-which to a lot of kids is a safe place they can pour their thoughts into-I'd say yeah, maybe that is too intrusive. But this is smartphones and social media we're talking about. Everything your child shares on Facebook is visible to hundreds of people. Anytime your child posts a selfie, it is viewed by the entire internet audience. They choose to broadcast everything on the internet. Their self-esteem, their popularity at school, their acceptance in their peer groups all depends on it. So, my point is, your child wants privacy from no one else but you.
Everyone else knows what's going on in your kid's life except you. And I would have thought knowing what's going on in your child's mind and life is part of parenting. It is easy for someone on the internet to write pretty words saying how you should give your kids privacy and build a relationship based on trust. But that's not the reality. The reality is, your kids won't ever deliberately come to you and say, "Hey mom, I got cyberbullied today!" or "Hey dad, I posted a mean comment on Ella's selfie, isn't that fun?" You're going to have to look for these things yourself. Which brings me back to my original argument-using monitoring for iPhone of iPad is not just reasonable, it's what every parent needs to be doing!
Because yes, there will be stuff available to your child on their smartphone that's not good for them. There will be apps that won't be appropriate for your children to use. But there are also apps that help parents regulate and monitor. XNSPY for example is a software through which parents can view most activity and track their kids. And at the end of the day, monitoring like this does not only ensure safety... it also allows for a more open form of communication between you and your kids.
You are responsible for your child from the moment they are born till the moment they leave the nest. You are responsible for their physical, emotional and social wellbeing. So, what I don't understand is when parents are expected to teach and regulate good conduct, manners and composure, why does it suddenly become taboo when this is done on a digital platform?
It's 2015. It is a time when social media and iPhones and apps and technology are a reality for every child in every household. And when that's the situation that parents have at their hands, digital upbringing should become more important than ever. So this stigma around parents that use iPhone monitoring app or trackers and other parental controls? I don't get it. We shouldn't punish parents that are digitally aware and look after their kid's online habits. On the contrary, we need to follow their lead.
Post by Hanry James
