Tulio writes:
One more thing, You said you were considered very good looking in your hey day. I’ll tell you this being an average guy. Good looking guys WAY overestimate their game. They tend to think that they get laid a lot because they are so smooth and have game when the real reason they are getting laid a lot is because they are good looking. I’ve known guys like this. An average looking dude could say the same things they say but it won’t have the same result.
Lucking out by being good-looking had a lot to do with my success as a young man. In fact, it actually has a lot to do with my success as a middle aged man because women my own age continue to go on and on about how handsome I am. But I do not think a lot of younger women think I am hot anymore. Apparently, I am an “old man” to them.
Men should try to be attractive to females in their age range. The idea that every man has to be desired by all age groups of females is insane, but many men have this absurd and idiotic mindset. Ideally, you would be considered attractive at least by women in your own cohort and honestly you should expect no more. I have a right to hope that women 45-60 find me attractive, but it is asinine for me to expect 95% women aged 18-24 to be drooling after me. I should assume that I am too old for most of them, and indeed I am.
Honestly a man should have both Looks and Game. Really you need both. A very good-looking guy with absolute crap game will not do well at all. In fact, he may wind up incel. Sure, women will be attracted to him, but they will notice his crap game and reject him.
I lucked out by ending up good-looking. Apparently I wasn’t particularly handsome or attractive to girls until I was 16 or so. Before that, I was a complete geek, and local girls used to laugh at me and make fun of me for not having a girlfriend.
Then I started to grow my hair long, smoke weed, surf and ski, and hang out with bad boys. Also I transformed from geek idiot loser into cool guy surfer stoner dude.
My father was furious at this transformation and he thought I had turned into an evil hippie scum. He thought my loser geek friends with the coolest guys on Earth. He hated my long hair. He said I looked like a girl. There were wild, insane fights about my hair all the time. It didn’t help that it was very curly and sort of feminine in that way. I told my father that if you had short hair, girls would have nothing to do with you, and if you wanted to get girls, you had to grow your hair long. He considered that to be incomprehensible and insane. It was like telling him 2 +2 was really 5. To him that was the craziest, stupidest idea he had ever heard.
I got mad at my father because as far as I was concerned my father was trying to keep me from getting chicks. Back then we thought gay guys were all straight guys who “turned gay” and most guys were scared of turning gay. From my vantage, my own father was trying to turn me into a faggot. Not deliberately of course, but still it pissed me off.
The transformation and the looks started getting me girls. Also I started hanging out with a bad crowd of delinquents who drank, smoked pot and took LSD and I started doing to wild teenage drug and booze parties all the time. The parties helped in getting girls too.
I fucked this one girl who the whole school wanted to fuck but she hardly fucked anybody at the school. I think she fucked one guy at our whole school. The fact that I fucked this chick somehow when no one else could sort of made me semi-famous at school.
And then I am not really sure what happened, but at junior college, things got way better really fast.
I would like to close by saying that Game alone will have dubious success if you have average looks or if you are a homely man.
