Business Magazine

Delayed Intelligence: People Skills

By Shawnaschuh
storm cell #9

In speaking with my friend Terri recently she shared about an incident she had where someone said something inappropriate that angered her. She didn’t find the words when it happened, didn’t feel she had handled it well and now in hindsight she said,

“I had delayed intelligence.”

What a great line –

I immediately picked up on it and said, “I know EXACTLY what you mean!”

Delayed intelligence – when your brain kicks in after the event – when you suddenly realize you know exactly how to handle the situation or the person or the behavior – only it’s over – and you feel bad.

Like a lot of things that I discover or that show up – and are blindingly obvious – what if delayed intelligence was the way we chose to look at the silly, stupid, uninspired things, comments and reactions we experience.

Really none of us are stupid or uninspired – even when we think we are – we’re just experiencing, “Delayed Intelligence” –

What if as we work this concept around in our minds – and by doing so the delayed part got shorter and shorter?

I’m going to put it to the test –

As situations or comments come up – I’ll:

  1. Not say anything right off – I’ll be silent instead of reactive
  2. Force a smile – this will alter my energy immediately
  3. Let the brain kick in – so I can comment or suggest nicely
  4. Allow the right words or phrases to pop into my head

If I miss it – and experience “Delayed Intelligence” I’ll review it in my mind – maybe discuss it with a friend and be ever more prepared in the future to have “Instant Intelligence” which we all do anyway when we’re not put off on the spot.

Okay – how about you?

Ready to forgive yourself for your delayed intelligence moments – good!

Remember – you create your day by the way you think – make it magnificent!

Blessings, Shawna

www.peopleskills.us


You Might Also Like :

Back to Featured Articles on Logo Paperblog

These articles might interest you :

  • Things That Count: People Skills

    Things That Count: People Skills

    Image via Wikipedia I’m uncertain who said this – however I read that it hung in Albert Einstein’s office at Princeton:“Not everything that counts can be... Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, CAREER, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE
  • Stormy Weather Lessons: People Skills

    Stormy Weather Lessons: People Skills

    Image via Wikipedia The rain is thrashing the outside of my house as I type this – I can hear it pelting the windows and ringing the wind chimes. I am snug... Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, CAREER, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE
  • Being Present Now: People Skills

    Being Present Now: People Skills

    Image by vgm8383 via Flickr Here’s a great question to start off our week:Do you let yesterday use up too much of today?Somewhere I read that most of us spend... Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, CAREER, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE
  • Lessons in Listening: People Skills

    Lessons Listening: People Skills

    Image by qthomasbower via Flickr If you’re reading this blog, you may be doing so on a black background with white letters – or you get it through email... Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, CAREER, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE
  • People Skills: Fearing the Fear…

    People Skills: Fearing Fear…

    Image via Wikipedia CCQPVPT82XADIn keeping with an Einstein quote for Wednesdays (a loose goal) here is something that fits with what happened to me last... Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, CAREER, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE
  • Flying Together is Better: People Skills

    Flying Together Better: People Skills

    Image by Alan Vernon. via Flickr A great flock of quail lived together in the forest. Food was plentiful and life was peaceful. One day a crafty hunter, who... Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE
  • People Skills: When Will You Have The Time?

    People Skills: When Will Have Time?

    Image by Neal. via Flickr Yesterday – I may have wasted some time – and yet I say to myself and out loud, “I don’t have enough time! Read more

    By  Shawnaschuh
    BUSINESS, LIFE COACH, LIFESTYLE