Apparently, universities in the US have recently polled 274 couples and found that some couples can keep the spark of their relationship alive for ten years. Well, call me an old romantic, but I never doubted that in the first place. Isn’t long lasting love the whole point of marriage?
My wife and I have been married for over two decades now, and of course we’ve had our ups and downs like any couple. It’s always tough when the kids come along and money is tight, but marriage to me is a promise to try your best to work these things out. I can honestly say that my wife is still the only person I want to share my life with, and if anything our relationship has only improved with age.
How much do you really know someone when you first meet them anyway? To me, real love is something that builds over the years as you get to know that person more and more, and as you share your life together. A relationship is something you have to work at. To use a common metaphor, a good relationship is like a well-tended garden.
And how do we keep our relationship alive? Well, the sexy lingerie I’ve bought from Tempestra certainly helps! But seriously, we go on date nights in or out together, we make sure to get plenty of alone-time away from the kids, and we always make sure to remember that we are a couple, not just a pair of parents. It can be hard through those years of nappy-changing and 4am tears, but now that we’re past that stage I’m happy to say we can once again give each other the attention we deserve.
So of course you can keep the spark alive for more than ten years! It doesn’t take a scientific poll to tell me that. The question is: can you make the spark last a lifetime?