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Accepting Differences–Without Forcing Them On Others!

By Rusty @russellpurkiss

The end result of your life here on earth will always be the sum total of the choices you made while you were here.”–Author Unknown

Accepting Differences–Without Forcing Them On Others!
For the record, yes I do believe in God, and I believe that He has placed us here on earth to make choices, choices that we alone can make and that even He has limited Himself in such a way to allow us to choose.  I also believe that with every choice that we make in life that we will then be left to live with the consequences of those choices and that what might be OK for one person does not necessarily mean it is for another.  There are so many differences between us, and thank God for that, there is male, female, tall, short, blonde, brunette, dark skin, light skin, the list is too long to enumerate here and I lack the time.  Well in the end there is just about every flavor on earth to satisfy everyone, if we just learn to accept them.

We are blessed with what I will call here “the majesty of choice”, a gift given us at birth that no one can take away from us but ourselves through our own choice to relinquish it according to our own will (or unless it is taken from us through some act of war).  There are choices that we make that are “good” choices that will bring us to greater and more wonderful things in our lives, as there are “poor” choices that may bring us to hard places and difficulties that, had we chosen the other way, perhaps things would have ended up better.  If you are able to discover this on your own, without outside interference, then you will be convinced beyond any shadow of doubt whether your choice was the better of choices. But “a man convinced against his will, will remain of the same opinion still”  In other words, if a man is coerced into believing something, or there is an attempt to push him to believe in a certain way, he will never be totally convinced until he personally chooses of his own volition!

We live in a society that is so diverse at this point that there is no way that you can place boundaries where one person is totally wrong and the other is completely right in all his ways.  If we cannot learn to accept others for who they are, instead of insisting that they be just like us, then we can move forward in unity despite our differences.  There are so many things that others do or lifestyles that others have chosen that I do not agree with, but it doesn’t give me license to condemn them or to criticize. I just choose to agree to disagree.

What I have a hard time with is when people make personal choices, and want to be accepted for who they are, but then they go beyond seeking acceptance and begin to impose their lifestyle on others.  Take for example homosexuality.  I do not agree with it, but I am willing to accept homosexuals for their personal choices and if they are happy with their choice, then fine.  But what I am not in agreement with is how their cause has not stopped at acceptance only of their personal lifestyle, but it has gone way beyond to the point in the attempt to rewrite how we should live our lives as a society.  Schools as early as kindergartens have felt it necessary to advertising that they are “gender neutral” which begins to make subtle suggestions in the minds of impressionable children that “maybe” they are homosexual.  To me that is way overboard and is exactly the same of what they accuse the “hardline religious” for being dogmatic. It is an example of the proverbial pot calling the kettle black.

As for my sexuality and what goes on in my bedroom it is NOYB as for your sexuality, it is NOMB, and I am perfectly fine with that, so what I am trying to say is, respect, and be respected.  Live and let live, because at the end of the day, we have to decide for ourselves.  So as for the myriad of choices that we make in our lives, be they religious, sexual, careers, habits, free time, etc.., they are all personal choices and should never stand in the way of our walking hand in hand as people, a nation or a people.  And please, do not force your choices on others, share how you feel, then leave room for others to choose on their own.

This is just one example, that I feel strongly about and it is not meant to attack homosexuals, but rather to suggest to anyone who has chosen a certain lifestyle, live it for yourself, share with who voluntarily wishes to do the same, just don’t push it on others who do not agree.  Agree to disagree, join hands and look for common ground.

As usual, you thoughts are always welcome.


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